I moved to Canada 3 months ago - to start university here... and I am so lonely here. I miss my home, my family and my friends. Back home, I used to have many friends and people knew me - I was important. University is a lot less fun than I expected it to be. I am not doing well academically, I cannot relate to my 'friends' over here, and I find myself almost running back to my room everyday, so that I can hide from the world. I find myself taking the less crowded route to class everyday, even though it is a longer route- just so that I dont have to face people 'looking at me'. I cry everyday. I feel like such a failure here and I don't want to tell my mother that I want to go back home because of financial constraints - she has spent a lot of money to send me here and go through the whole immigration process. Not to mention having to explain to aunts and uncles why I am back. Plus I would have wasted my time here. No, I dont want to go back. But I don't know what to do. Suggestions?
2006-12-10 17:54:50 · 9 answers · asked by tanyao 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you need a friend & I am willing to be that friend.
2006-12-10 18:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid you are forgetting the primary objective of going to Canada - to pursue an academic programme. Making friends and having fun are secondary. If you think that university is meant mainly for fun you are mistaken. In a foreign country you can't expect to have a large number of friends as in hometown. You need not feel miserable just because you miss your home, family and friends. Make a sincere effort to adjust to the new surroundings and concentrate on your studies. When you get focussed on academic pursuits, instead of thinking only about fun and friends, you will be able to improve your performance.
Occasionally, you can go for a sight seeing trip. Go for a good musical performance or a play. You will enjoy such things and refresh your mind.
Consider your stay abroad as an opportunity to have some first hand information and experience in a different culture.
You have spent only 3 months there. After the initial difficulties faced in a new environment, you will be able to lead a normal student life.
Dont complicate things by telling your relatives that you want to go back to your home without completing your studies.
2006-12-10 19:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by ppn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well start doing the opposite of what you are doing. Start taking the crowded route. Dont rush back to your room...linger back and talk to classmates. Go to the library or bookstore. Take a fun art class or one that interests your creative side or if you cant take one....join one to assist a teacher, the students. Realize that finding new friends doesnt happen overnight. That takes time and a willingness to be around people. What you are doing is staying away from them. Youre basically telling people by your actions that you dont want friends and you are unapproachable.
Try new tactics. Peace.
2006-12-10 18:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm writing u with a hope that I can make u understand about ur staying in Canada. U need to stay, U have to stay. There is no choice in it. This is the time for u to struggle. I saw many people , who went to America Canada & many countries in Europe. They all behave all most same. First 3 to 6 month is very crucial priod. Every one of them likes to jump back. Bcz they go thre(Abroad) with a big dream & hope with out knowing the hardship they have to face! But later after that time they cool down. after years , they never dream of come back.
Friend, just remember,people trying to go to all those countries with risk of life.Some goes through middle east & east Europian countries . They board in cargo bats, trucks,in containers even by 100 miles walk trough forest hills & ice /snow fields!
In this world, there is no value of human life with out money & power. To achieve that. Money comes first. So get the GOLDEN DEAR . Have strength to fight the situation. Once u get it(Money) U can go around. No body will disowned u. U will gain respect & honout more then u desire.
In Canada, Just hunt money. It is indeed easy then in to be in home land. Example, I know a person who was a young parliament member, went to states & driving Taxi. Now he is again well off.
U can do odd job too for time being. Earn money. That is the last & final saying.
2006-12-10 18:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by ogmansur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are home sick. Keep in touch with your family and friends back home as much as possible. If you can't relate your friends at college, maybe try joining a group or 2 relating to something that you like so you can meet other people who share the same interests as you. Get out and try to meet others instead of just hiding in your room. As for your grades, study hard and hopefully they will go back up. If you need someone to talk to, just email me. My email address is on my profile.
2006-12-10 18:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by kerrberr95 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very common among college students. It takes time to make the adjustment. It make take some maturity on your part to get used to alone time. To focus on yourself and enjoy the solitude. Do not be insecure about people looking at you, stand tall and be who you are, let them look. If you must, seek out other people from your home country to socialize with. Let them be established as your support base, to grow out from to meet other people eventually. If you schedule your time with classes, study time, meals, exercise, and entertainment; then you'll probably find a routine where you don't have time to dwell in your loneliness. Perhaps look into voice over IP technology so you can contact home at little or no cost. Canada is a beautiful country to explore and her people are relaxed and friendly. Give it a chance; its only temporary, you can make it.
2006-12-10 18:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to go back. Just answer all the questions on Yahoo Answers! You'll rediscover your talent & get confident! Believe me you're not a failure - just one of those life's testing moments. You'll get over it & be successful! Only have Faith, Hope & Patience! Take care.
2006-12-14 03:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a real serious problem from Ur point of view but people say its quite common for people like U..............I would suggest U to do whatever U do with dedication n hardwork..........if U rally can't concentrate wha tis d use staying back.....at the end U r not getting any purposeful things to do............but if U can't do dat just bcoz U mom gets hurt, try to concentrate on wat U really need to do.........make a few friends there which could help U a lot...........I wish U all d best
2006-12-10 18:03:30 · answer #8 · answered by David SRK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better you love with yourself .
think that everyone is alone .
every times you smile like flower .
write one poem everyday .
2006-12-14 03:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by pramod_bhikhampur p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋