My Dad lost everything in Hurricane Katrina. It totally devasted him and he started to spiral into a deep depression. He lost a business he'd had for nearly 40 yrs. Here's the thing... Now, I do nothing but work in a new business he and I started so that he can have something to look forward to every day as well as an income and some sort of retirement. He's finally happy again! BUT some people say that I need to get a life and quit working so much and so hard. I'm 40 yrs. old, I don't go out, I don't date, I'm divorced and my kids are all on their own now. I feel that my life is ok even though I do miss doing things and a having a social life but, I just want my Dad to be ok! I've made some bad choices in the past that worried him terribly and now I think I'm finally making a good one that will benefit not only him but my entire family since this is potentially a multi-million dollar business. Am I really doing the right thing by focusing my entire life on this right now?
2006-12-10 17:32:32 · 8 answers · asked by pillowtalk504 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You certainly should be giving yourself a pat on the back. What you are doing is wonderful. I would say that focusing yourself on this is fine right now and do it as long as you still feel good about it. Perhaps you could take more of a backseat role when things get off the ground a little more. Try to work in some time for yourself and for socialising if you can. It is possible that your mental health will suffer if you work too hard and deprive yourself of 'you time'. If that happens you won't be helping anyone so try and take it easy sometimes. Good luck with everything and good on you.
2006-12-10 17:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by sticky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, i would like to say what you are doing is a good and nice thing for your father but is it the right thing for yourself? well i believe that only you can answer this question. First you have to ask your self "Am I Happy?" also if what you are doing still letting you have a social life and your still getting to meet new people think then i believe that you are doing the right thing. Also you really shouldn't focus your entire life on this (i know what happened to your father is a tragedy) but you still need to make time for yourself.
2006-12-10 17:47:23 · answer #2 · answered by crazy_guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your business can't be over 2 years old now and as you know in general a business normally takes 5 years to begin showing a real profit..It seems this business is serving two purposes giving your dad a positive outlook and activity for him to focus on as well as building a platform for your security down the road ..40 is a late start but it is a START...make the business viable and things will fall in place for you later...heck it just might be that finding a partner is not in your future..so be responsible to your own future and make it as secure and permanent as possible...
Good luck and your dad is fortunate to have a daughter as strong as you..
2006-12-10 17:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be going on dates right now when you heart is with your dad and the business?
You wouldn't be enjoying your dates; you'd be worrying about your dad and the business.
Follow your heart.
I think you have a good one.
You're still young.
When the right man comes knocking on the door, open it.
But don't go knocking on any doors.
I don't know what bad choices you've made in your life, but I don't think this is one of them.
2006-12-10 18:28:03 · answer #4 · answered by Louw D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congradulations, I am very happy to hear there is another woman who doesn't depend on men to make it in life. I have been single since I was 28, and I love it, and have found most men are only looking for what a woman has to give that is materialistic, not anything of themselves or from the heart. Go for what you know in your heart is right and be happy.
2006-12-10 17:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Fruit Cake Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're thoughtful, caring and showing love towards your dad. And that's something money cannot buy in a flash. The amount of time, persistance, perseverance and committment you have put in really speaks a lot about your personality. You decide the answer for yourself. No one else can.
2006-12-10 17:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mark L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh Pillowtalk,,
You are still focused on “making your dad happy”, your life has been about “pleasing Dad” you can’t do that forever. At 40 you are allowed to make yourself happy!! If you want a social life then,, by all means have one !! If you want to be successful in business, then by all means be successful !! You are “allowed” to have both !! But you are going to have to stop living your life just trying to “make Dad happy”.
Think about it,, do you want your children to focus their lives “only on making you happy”?? I bet not.. I bet you want them to do what makes them happy. Your Dad is no different.
2006-12-10 17:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I think you are making a very noble sacrifice. You are such a caring person. I think your dad needs you right now. and thank you for being such a wonderful person. God Bless you and your father. And have a very Merry Christmas.
2006-12-10 17:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋