My husband says he knows that everytime we have sex I am hoping I will get pregnant. He told me last night that this is a huge turn off. So how am I supposed to stop hoping to get pregnant?
2006-12-10 17:18:15 · 23 answers · asked by Ryan's Ma 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What he's trying to tell you is he wants to feel like you find him sexually attractive again and not just a baby-making machine. It's okay to keep hoping to become pregnant, just don't make it known before, during or after sex. One way of letting him know that you're having sex with him because you want him (and not just his sperm..lol) is to surprise him with a sensual massage or ask him to meet you for lunch, if possible, at a hotel. But the main thing is...don't talk about getting pregnant every time sex is mentioned.
Good Luck!!
2006-12-10 17:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by AverageMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some different hobbies. If all your talking about is starting a family then frankly your rather boring. (no one wants a boring mom) Darling you really need to get a life, an exciting one. When your are sparkling you won't be able to get that hubby off of you. Kids will come when and if the time is right.
Get out of the house make some new friends, take a class learn some new skills. Do some volunteer work. Dance more. Use birth control right in front of him, get into the sex with him and put the family making on the back burner. The population is high enough as it is. You are young and on this planet, have some fun for Christs sake enjoy all that you have. Quit pining away for what you think you don't have. If you did have a baby right now how happy would you be when that husband leaves you every night to get away from the noise and stress in the home? Put your baby clock on the shelf and make being married to you so much fun that he will want to tie you to him with a bunch of kids.
2006-12-10 17:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by Ande Deel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk about having a baby and decide on whether or not it is the best idea. Maybe he does not want a baby at this time so the thought of it.. doesnt necessarily turn him off but freaks him out... and takes his mind off the sex. I don;t know how to stop hoping to get pregnant. I do not know if that is possible? I think talking about it is the best thing. Why are you hoping to get pregnant? Are you trying? Is he ok with that? I think you should focus on the sex and not what could be the result of it (having a baby).
2006-12-10 17:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by Denise G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hoping is the is imagine the possibility of giving birth. There is nothing wrong with that.
The expectations a man has is sometimes shown through his frustrations. Try to be patience with his and your own when you do this the truth is revealed,
To yourself be true.
2006-12-10 17:39:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never stop hoping, but maybe you are working at something that will happen naturally and be more welcoming to him over time. Does he want to have children? Or does he dislike thinking about babies and diapers at a time when he'd rather be letting himself relax with you and think about why he chose you to be the one he would give his love to, forever.
2006-12-10 17:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by QueryJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because he doesn't think that you as a couple are financially sound enough to bring a child into the world, or you can't handle the role as a mother because you're too dependent on your own parents that the mere mention of you wanting to get pregnant puts too much stress on him, you should find out why his reaction is like that and work to remedy the situation
2006-12-10 17:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by jglassdude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it bother him so much? Maybe it doesn't really turn him off, maybe it just scares him, or maybe he doesn't really want it right now. When my husband & I were trying, it didn't turn him off, but he was looking forward to having a child as well. I'd have a serious talk with your husband to find out why exactly it bothers him so much.
2006-12-10 17:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by doodlebugg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decision to have a child is one that should be agreed to by both people, or it's a bad decision. That's pretty elementary.
What you have to do is discuss it, and make a unified decision or agree that unless you both agree to it, then it isn't in the immediate future.
Set a timetable, and revisit it at that time. If you still can't agree then, you'll have to explore your other options, and how much each one means to you.
Good Luck.
2006-12-10 17:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not ready for a child and you are maybe you all need to talk about it come to some kind of agreement were you can get the patch or get on birth control, and when you are both ready you can then have a baby.
2006-12-10 17:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by I am women 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pressuring him. Don't talk about having a baby. It will happen when it happens. Talking won't make you get pregnant any sooner. He probably feels like you are only doing it to get pregnant. You have to let him know you want HIM and not his sperm.
2006-12-10 17:20:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋