My sister is older than me. We are in our forties.
I have been sick for 7 years. She never asked me how I was doing or whether she could do anything for me. Even being sick I asked her what I could do for her. That doesn't make me better...just a fact. In the beginning she actually made fun of me.
She now has the same symptoms I have. Recently she started calling, but I feel it's only to get information from me that will help her get better.
With the holidays upon us, do I put all of the bad feelings aside or not?
2006-12-10 17:14:25 · 12 answers · asked by flyinghawk0727 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sisters in my opinion, have been alienated from each other in general for too long. It is difficult nowadays to have the closeness we once had when we lived in the same home or neighborhood. Unless someone can see how you suffer, telling them about it doesn't do any good. They have to understand your life. Sharing information is better for you now. Caring is something you should not stop trying to do. I am sorry you are both sick, but comforting one another is the key to lasting sisterly friendship and affection. I suspect that you really care about your family in the first place and don't ever want to lose that relationship. It is forever. You can have a million friends and acquaintances, but sisters are rare, since they came from the same heart and life. Pray for one another and keep your faith.
2006-12-10 17:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by QueryJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i was always taught two wrongs dont make a right. i dont know how many times i heard that growing up but its true. and in the bible it says do unto others and you would want done to you. even thought your sister didnt come to you when you needed her dosent mean you have to be that way. I would forget about the past and be grateful that you still have your sister around. i mean once she's gone she's gone. dont let this little thing get in the way of you guys being there for each other. she should have been there for you and maybe by you being there for her she will realize hey i should have done that for my sister and she will probably thank you for whatever you do and tell you she is sorry for not being there for you. Have a good heart and help your sister out it will make you feel better in the long run. good luck. sorry you were sick if i would have known you i would have helped out.
2006-12-11 01:21:59 · answer #2 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Like you said – you’re not better than her.
You don’t say what illness you have.
But maybe she never understood your illness or never took it seriously.
I think it’s great that she turns to you.
You can use this situation to bring you two sisters closer together.
Don’t hold the past against her.
You’ve been going alone at this thing for 7 years.
Now you have someone that understands and can go through it with you.
Leave the past in the past.
I really think this can bring a close bond between you sisters.
Enjoy the holidays with her.
2006-12-11 02:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by Louw D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mom and her sister are kind of the same way. The only difference is that my mom has not spoken to her sister for 17 years. They have recently started speaking again and there have been situations like yours.
I think you should tell her what she wants to know, only because you love your sister. Dont' ignore her or not tell her for spite because she didn't seem to care too much about your being sick. Help her because you love her. Thats really what it comes down to.
2006-12-11 01:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by Andigurl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honey I would put my feelings aside and enjoy each other. She is your sister, and you don't want to be cruel. it will only make you feel worse. You could probably help each other if she has the same thing as you. she is probably sorry for making fun of you now that she has the same thing. Love your sister life is to short to hold grudges. God Bless both of you.
2006-12-11 01:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Youre in your 40's, be the bigger peron and be nice. Obviously you cannot forget about the way she has treated you. The only thing that will most likely happen if you decide not to talk to your sister is you may become stessed out and it could back fire on you.
2006-12-11 01:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to dwell on the past. You two should talk the situation out amongst each other and become friends. Trust me, I have four sisters.
2006-12-11 01:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by Ozzie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer. You might be the better person so be the bigger one. Family is family love should be unconditional you don't want to regret anything when it is to late.
2006-12-11 01:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
just deside to be the better person and maybe add a little making fun of her to
2006-12-11 01:19:12 · answer #9 · answered by wuzupschoolsucks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-11 01:18:24 · answer #10 · answered by Pethy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋