We've been together for 2 years and we have many plans for our future. The issue here is that i can't stand his family: his mother, sister, father, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins... Nobody. I can't even hear him talk about them. What can I do about it? I love him very much, but me and his family are totally opposites.
2006-12-10 17:03:52 · 12 answers · asked by Dita 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Join the club!!! There is not many thing you can do about it. You have to decide if you can see yourself with him and his family. Unfortunatly we can't pick our in laws. You got to imagine that they will be there for the long run...Don't let him talk about them by avoiding or changing the discussion.
2006-12-10 17:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Super N = you have a super problem. Run. Many men marry their own generation's version of mom. What you experience as antagonism is quite likely competition between two mirror images after the same man.
If your love is too strong to love. Then you need to sit down w/ him in honest discussions of the situation and explore why it is this way. Then decide how far away you can get. If not geographically - then in boundaries such as 1 visit every 3 months and 2 phone calls a month. etc.
2006-12-10 17:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY can't you stand them? politics, religion, culture, what is it about them that you can't stand? Do they like you? Do they get along with you? Does he know? Does he exhibit any of the traits that you hate in his family, or is he the black sheep of the bunch? Is there something about him that you're ignoring? Can you learn to just get along with them for a short time? The problem might be you too, your prejudices, expectations, etc . . .
2006-12-10 17:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by tedschram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get along, or ignore. My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years and she has just learned to ignore my family. If you want to be together that badly, you will find a way.
2006-12-10 17:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
even old Uncle Charlie? Everyone likes him. Tell you what, straight up, your future aint gonna work. You marry into his family, he into yours. They ALL gather for kids events and holidays. Better find a guy whose family you do like....or will put up with you.
2006-12-10 17:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him, then his family should not be a problem. It's not like you'll be living with them. Love him for him, and don't let his family get in the way.
2006-12-10 17:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by Michael C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his mother, sister, aunts, grandparents, uncles, cousins? Hmmm there's a common denominator here. and that is you.
Poor him.
2006-12-10 17:07:08 · answer #7 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him, you will need to care about what he cares about.
try to be polite, if nothing else, and consider his feelings.
do -not- ever tell him that you can't stand them, it would be a slap in his face.
have a nice day.
2006-12-10 17:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by sharrron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...you can choose your boyfriend, but you can't choose his family.
Basically, other than TRYING to get along, there's really nothing you CAN do, short of avoiding them.
2006-12-10 17:07:10 · answer #9 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just bite your lip and get by the best you can.
Or Move away from them.
2006-12-10 17:07:04 · answer #10 · answered by daveetrice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋