I have made someone who has hurt me feel guilty for so long.
But I still can't forgive her. How can I forgive and forget and move on with my life? Because I know she has moved on.
2006-12-10 16:47:00 · 13 answers · asked by Gabriel 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You can't forgive because you still feel hurt by it. You have to find a way to over come this hurt. Find out the reasons on why she did what she did to hurt you. If she truely feels bad for doing that to you, tell yourself that that is enough. Do what you think is nessicary to get closure from this whole thing. Only then can you forgive and move on
2006-12-10 17:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is a very intentional thing. You have to make a concerted effort to do so, you can't wait until you feel like forgiving someone because that may or may never happen. The first step is to decide to forgive that person which involves your heart. You have to declare in your heart "ok heart, we are now changing and I officially let this go and forgive her." Say it out loud if it helps. Next, decide that you'll never bring it up, ever again. If she brings it up, for what ever reason, assure her that its water .under the bridge and again, let it go. Decide to move on. The funny thing about guilt and unforgiveness, they create bitterness inside of the person holding it. You'll find it difficult to be totally free; totally happy. I hope these are incentives to help you move to the next level in your relationship with this person, and that's joy.
Good Luck
2006-12-10 16:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by volkgal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Every body has right to live their life independently subject to not hurting others but unknowingly or knowingly a person hurts to other. So, is this situation in your case.
2. You can practice this method to come out of her.
Every day for 30 minutes , sit alone , close your eyes and remember the whole story (step by step starting from end to bigning ) which happened in association with her just as witness.
3. After certain days you will feel your self that the effect of guilt is diminishing , practice it till you move on with your life without her.
2006-12-10 17:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by binda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting over guilt is just a matter of deciding to move on and not let that thing dictate who you are any longer. Yeah it sounds easy huh. Well when you are ready to let go you will. For now just appreciate that someone was once so important to you that now you feel like this. That should be comforting and life affirming.
2006-12-10 16:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lion_Heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I shouldn't be answering this I think. I have a hard time with the forgetting part of it... and for a large part the forgiveness too... when I get hurt I get hurt deeply and it takes a LONG time for me to get over it... most people who have hurt me I have moved on with my life, without them - tho I don't suggest you do that. I think it just takes time and effort from both people... they have to earn your trust back and you have to allow them to do that...
2006-12-10 16:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by ♪♫♪Ginny♪♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what your are feeling inside of your heart and forgive what she did in the past but look into the future. I'm not tryin to put you down or nothin, but you control your feelings inside and the more you dont forgive the harder the road ahead is.
2006-12-10 16:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
that depends upon what other options u have but u can forgive her to live a better life.
2006-12-10 17:06:50 · answer #7 · answered by Avatar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that your hurt still cause she did what she did. pour your heart out tell how you feel and why then never bring it up again
2006-12-10 16:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny Q 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not guilt, that's regret.
2006-12-10 16:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by d4d9er 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chowder said it right
2006-12-10 16:55:23 · answer #10 · answered by Pandora 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋