Why does it hurt so much?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been fighting lately and every single time we fight it kills me inside. We just had a huge fight 2 days ago and it hurt me so much that I just sat there and inside I felt like my heart just fell and cracked on the floor and now I am back to the same spot. We got into today's fight for the same reason as Friday and now I feel the same exact way......how can I make it not hurt so much inside when we fight, I can't take it anymore, all I want to do right now is get drunk but that won't really help I just want it to go away.. Please, please help me!

Answer 1

fighting hurts because it means your relationship has hit a little bad spot at the time and that always hurts. if you are always fighting, you should probobly sit and talk about it and get to the bottom of why you arent getting along as well lately. if you cant overcome it like that, you should take a small break from eachother to see if you feel better apart. constant fighting might mean its a good time to take a break, or that your communication just needs some work.

Answer 2

Question. what are you fighting about? Finances? Best bet it probably is. Can I suggest seeing a counsler, I mean, both of you. If he won't , then try to talk it out. Drinking does not solve anything, in fact, it only delays dealing with any problems. I should know. I have some friends who drink sometimes to forget their problems, and after they had their fun, it's still there. Sometimes when they're drunk, they sometimes end up doing something even more stupid. Oh and if he doesn't really want to talk talk right then and there, ask him what you think should be done and as calmly as you can tell him what you think and just drop it. Wait until later, not 10 minutes later, but later, to start talking. Talk a little at a time about it. Don't do it all at once. This is the only thing I can think of.

Answer 3

As you have stated, getting drunk will not help. Sorry that your boyfriend and you are fighting. When we have disagreements with loved ones it hurts emotionally inside. If this is happening more and more maybe it is time to take a drastic step. Quit seeing your boyfriend for awhile, it will lessen the arguing and the pain will go away. Maybe you need to get out and about socially without your boyfriend for now. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Relationships arent perfect and nothing in this world is, so you have to accept things are going to go through bad patches and fights. As long as you love eachother deep down inside, things will always be okay after you both vent. As far as the hurting and pain, there is no CURE for that, you love the guy, so it will hurt more than anything. just stay positive or have some time out.

Answer 5

Wow. I am the same way. You feel like crap because you really love this person and it hurts when they are angry with you. I don't eat or sleep when I am mad at my spouse. I get a sick feeling in my gut. I believe it is because i feel like i let him down. Plus what we usually fight for is something so trivial. Ask yourself is leaving each other worth this? Try and be the bigger person and reach out to him. Do not get drunk unless you are at home. The worse thing you wanna do is go out and get drunk and do something you will regret later.

Answer 6

First of all, ask you’re self why you guys where fighting? What where you fighting about? Who said what that lead up to it? If you’re fighting over nothing constantly then he’s either cheating or unhappy. Try talking to him about what’s on his mind and so forth. If he refuses to let you in and repair you’re relationship, then it’s time to let the relationship go, and move on to a much happier and healthier relationship.

Don't get drunk. Deal with the issue, it'll still be there til you do something about it.

Answer 7

your right cks , getting drunk doesnt help,,,, fighting isnt a good thing, it only shows clashing of your personilitys... one question to ask yourself, can you remember when it was when you and your boyfriend have a fight in the past maybe the first time? did you go to bed made at him?
if so then you and him placed a seed of anger in your relationship and now it is growing , e-mail me if you want to talk it out somemore, just as someone to bounce the pain off on, and nothing else, i will pray with you and for you.....t/c

Answer 8

in order not to hurt so much is trying to tone down the fight each time...i guess. fight can be replaced by communication and talk. and also try to avoid hurtful words and gear the fight toward the current event only. good luck.

Answer 9

Hey hun! Move on... Just remember that the begininning of your relationship will set the tone, so to speak, of your relationship in the future. It sounds like you guys have some differences that you need to work out. Theres no need to fight and scream at each other, we aren't animals! God Bless ya!

Answer 10

I kno where you're coming from...I'm currently away from my man and we fight constantly when we're away. I kno it's really hard but I jus try to find something to keep me occupied to get my mind off him...and try to stay happy! I kno it's hard...trust me!! We've been back and forth since April with only being together every few months...so yea it's hard but jus try to think of the good times and stay happy. If you want it bad enough things'll work out! Good luck!!