do you owe it to your spouse to have sex,even when your not in the mood,and your spouse is.....
a co-worker told me that she does,because it is her job to,and if she doesnt give it to him when he want it....(which by the way.....is all the time) he will find someone who will.....
2006-12-10 16:42:44 · 31 answers · asked by Cece B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here's a Christmas gift idea for your co-worker: A big sign, to be worn around her neck, saying "sex slave".
2006-12-10 16:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't think the correct words for it is "owe it to him" but marriage and sex is give and take just like everything else in this world. Sometimes we need to do things for our spouse that makes them happy even though we may not feel like doing it - its called compromise! I'm not saying give it to him whenever and whenever he wants it, if you aren't feeling well or something else is going on, its okay to say no. Just don't make a habit of never being in the mood. A healthy sex life is an important part of an intimate relationship!
2006-12-11 00:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends. If you're seldom or never in the mood, then get in the mood, because this intimacy is what makes you a couple and not just friends. There's give and take. Sometimes you're not in the mood when your partner is, and sometimes your partner's not in the mood when you are. Find a middle ground, so you're both happy. It's not nice to deprive your partner too much.
2006-12-11 00:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by The Mad Shillelagh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are times I'm not in the mood to but I tell my husband and then I will offer it anyway and he always accepts and makes it quick since he knows I'm not in the mood.
I believe we do what we have to do to make our spouse happy in the marriage.
Now if you never feel like having sex with your spouse then you need marriage counseling and that really does help, it helped us.
2006-12-11 04:39:48 · answer #4 · answered by LC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. 4 The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.
5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7 But I wish everyone were single, just as I am. But God gives to some the gift of marriage, and to others the gift of singleness.
(1 Corinthians 7:3-7)
2006-12-11 00:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you do not owe it to you spouse if your ill or not in the mood. But it seems if you just weren't in the mood he'd do what ever he could to get you there.
I will say when I married the first time, way back... we were married in the catholic church and it was in our vows that one would have sex with the other unless one was ill, drunk, being abusive or mentally ill. And NO the vows weren't especially written.
2006-12-11 00:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never especially in marriage that act of sex /making love should be a mutual bonding when both parties are there to enjoy it. If a guy thinks that just because he is married to someone and they are his slave well that is wrong and controlling behavior on his part. Sex in marriage is one of the most intimate actions couples
participate in you should never feel pressured or consider a duty.
2006-12-11 00:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nobody should feel that they have to give it up when they do not want to. Sex should be a gift you are giving to your partner.
And yes, if a woman never wants sex then her husband may look elsewhere to get that need met. But occassionally not being in the mood, or just to tired to have sex, then she should not be faking it to keep him happy
2006-12-11 00:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by loveseat 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Short term, no, Long term, yes.
I.e. if you your spouse asks for sex every day, and about twice a month you have a headache and aren't up to it, fine.
If your spouse asks for sex and you normally say no ... they should leave you.
2006-12-12 13:06:39 · answer #9 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you feel like it are you ill or do you really not have quite the same feelings for him as you use to? if your not feeling well for some reason then he should understand but if you keep saying no then it is posiable he may look to someone else you should sit down and talk to each other about this if you both do love each other
2006-12-11 00:59:30 · answer #10 · answered by rocknrandy77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋