Breast or Bottle?

Question

I am unbelievably sick of all of you self righteous people who think that formula is made for lazy or uncaring mothers. STOP assuming that people asking questions about formula want your damn input. We are parents too and large companies make formula for a reason. Would you rather me starve my child because I cannot breast feed. And for your information, it was because of two lactation speciaists that added to my inability to breast feed. Keep your opinions to yourself and stop the judgment. It is difficult enough making parenting descisions without people like you! Here, Here to those of you with the same opinion! Let me here from you!

Answer 1

ok first off, take a deep breath and remeber this........all moms think that their way is the best way, not matter what the topic. I have an 18 mo old boy, my only kid so far. I have found out whenever I ask a simple question from moms at the playground, church, random people on the web, everyone has a great opionion and they are just that..everyone has one and some people get a little excited over their input. You should have heard the bull when I started potty training the boy. People were very negative. "Oh he is much to young, he doesn't even know what a toilet is" (say this in a snide tone of voice) but he reallly wanted to poop in the toilet, and now about 80% of his dumps are in the big boy potty, not bad. Just wait until the little ones get older and people from everywhere are just DYING to tell you the right way to do EVERYTHING. Yes, my kid was breastfed, but we come from a long line of tit feeders so it worked for me. But feeding your kid is a personel decision. My neighbor wanted to breastfeed but her child was allergic to the protein in the milk and crapped blood everytime he ate. So whatever your decision, when people give you lines of crap just smile, nod and say "what a great idea, I will write that down." and then burn it up. Shoot I still don't tell people I put him in front of Mickey Mouse cartoons so I can cook dinner, I'd get my *** kicked by the PTA. Good Luck with your kids and always try to keep humor in everything you do!!
Mel

Answer 2

I was bottle fed, as were my brother and sister. We all have asthma and allergies. I breastfed my kids and have not had allergic problems with them. I'm sorry you had bad experiences with lactation consultants; sometimes less interference is better. Sometimes people try very hard, even pumping for a while, but the problems are insurmountable. Even one feeding of breastmilk helps a newborn, so I say it is important to try, give it a go, and then make the best formula choice you can, give the baby lots of skin to skin and all the other things that make a good parent. The choice of feeding isn't everything. Calm parents raise great kids.

Answer 3

not really a question, and honestly formula is way harder than nursing... and much more expensive too! In fact I've always felt quite lazy breastfeeding my kids; I never need to get the bottles/nipples clean, prepare, and warm the formula (not to mention pack it all if I'm going somewhere). I'm sorry you had the bad experiences with the lactation consultants, they really are supposed to help not hinder. By the way, I thought if you asked a question on yahoo answers it was a given that you were opening yourself up to other's opinions (like yours, cursing and all), & you're judging too by calling, oh my goodness "people with opinions" self-righteous. Come on.... Breast or bottle? it's really not going to make or break your parenting experience. Like you said, there's more than enough difficult parenting decisions to make!
Oh, I can't resist... large companies make formula for money, just like tobacco companies make cigarettes for money. I'm not saying that formula is bad, but breast milk is proven better than formula, I think they even say something like that on the formula.

Answer 4

Your right. I agree completely. I have three boys of mine own that I wasn't able to breast feed. Not because I couldn't produce enough milk, but because they wouldn't latch properly and I felt like they were going hungry. I had no choice but to switch to formula. Formula is very closely patterned after breast milk, it's damn near the same thing these days. Don't listen to what these people have to say. Some people will never open their eyes to how things sometimes are. Bottle feeding doesn't make you a bad mom, letting your child starve does. Good Luck to you and your baby.

Answer 5

Personally I breastfed both of my children, but I think that the decision to breastfeed or bottlefeed is one that should be left up to the mother to decide. Granted there are women out there who choose to use formula simply because they are too lazy to breastfeed, but there are many other factors to consider as well. Regardless of the reason behind the decision, though, it is your decision to make. As long as you take good care of your child and provide him or her with everything needed to thrive (good nutrition, a safe place to sleep, and lots of love), then you are on the right track.

I am sorry that some people have not been supportive of your decision to use formula, but I wouldn't worry too much about what other people think. You shouldn't have to justify your decision to a bunch of strangers.

Good luck!

Answer 6

Is this a question or a statement?

You are the mom. Its your right to choose. Do what you feel is best.

I have heard of women getting emotionally traumatized by the lactation specialists - you are definitely not alone.

There are a lot of advantages to breast-feeding, but, it doesn't work for everyone.

I hope you can find peace in the comfort that your child is being fed with the nutrition she needs. She will be fine with modern formula.

Answer 7

Your right, large companies do make formula for a reason, PROFIT! It has nothing to do with you feeding your baby. I am sorry that you do not feel comfortable enough with YOUR decision that other people's opinions can hurt you so much. Remember, when you read comments/answers here you can not see the person's facial expressions or hear their tone of voice. Please do not judge so quickly, most of them are trying to help.

Answer 8

Yes hun I agree with you. I couldn't breast feed my first born. She almost starved to death. I could my second child easily. Do what is best for your child. And don't worry about what the rest of the world says. I am sure you are the best Mother in the world rather than worrying about what others say. This is yours and your love will guide you. My first Grandchild will be born by my daughter who I couldn't breastfeed. I am staying out of the parents business. LOTS OF LOVE GRANNY TO BE LAUGH OUT LOUD!

Answer 9

I more often than not stopped nursing my daughter for approximately six weeks because of a few clinical problems and fed her breastmilk from a bottle whilst she was once approximately the identical age. Then I needed to get her nursing once more. She tolerated the alterations good, and even though she turns out to decide on nursing, she additionally bottle-feeds good. (By the best way, it is not a nasty factor to introduce a three-month child a bottle... Mom will have to delivering a bottle round this age besides if she ever plans to take action, or the child might under no circumstances be trained to take one.) It's no longer an hindrance of nipple *confusion* up to nipple *option*... the child is aware of precisely what she needs, and that is as so much milk as effortlessly as viable. So the trick is to make nursing extra gratifying than bottle-feeding! Your pal will have to consistently present to nurse first. She can attempt to make nursing extra attractive than bottle-feeding via delivering extra cuddling or making a song a favourite tune simplest whilst nursing. She will have to watch out to appear out for early indicators of starvation, so she has time to get capable and latch the child on earlier than she's ravenous and frantic and no longer sufferer adequate to nurse. Of path, she demands to ensure the latch is well, and each she and the child are relaxed and cozy. The proposal of pumping a bit bit first to get the allow-down began is a well one, even though simply undoing her bra and hand-expressing for a minute will have to accomplish the identical factor with no need to debris with the pump. Expressing a bit milk onto the nipple for the child to sniff and style may be a well proposal. But steer clear of the nipple shields! You'd simply be educating the child to suck on an extra piece of plastic, and you then'd need to wean her from the ones, too. If the child attempts and attempts and is simply getting pissed off, then deliver her the bottle as a substitute than letting her cross hungry! But she will use a gradual-glide nipple and take a seat the child semi-upright so the nipple is simply slightly stuffed with milk to ensure bottle-feeding turns into as so much paintings because the breast-feeding. And hold the bottles out of sight! This was once approximately the age that my daughter began connecting the bottle sitting at the desk with the milk in her tummy, so if she would see the bottle, she desired it as a substitute than me. Sorry that is goodbye, however I desired to furnish as so much data as viable. Best of success!

Answer 10

"large companies make formula for a reason."

Duh! to make money from ignorant mothers who can't be bothered to try and try some more.

It is not your lactation specialists fault that you were not committed enough to supply your baby with their birthright of mother's milk.

There is a legitimate percentage of mothers who cannot breastfeed because of insufficant glandular tissue or medical issues such as chemotherapy. It is about 4%. If you count yourself among that number, fine, but so many people in this country are so ignorant about human lactation that they just assume that altered bovine lactate is optimal nutrition for their HUMAN offspring. When, in reality, it is barely adequate.