We spend so much time living for money, these days. I think my love life was miles hotter when my man was unemployed and I was doing part time work around my study. We had stuff all money, but we had fun, and we had time together to talk or go fishing or hang out with friends. How do you put the zing back in a relationship, when all you do is work and all you want to do when you get home is be alone?
2006-12-10 16:31:28 · 11 answers · asked by The Mad Shillelagh 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
M. Scott Peck, author of "The Road Less Travelled".
First line of his book is this, "Life is difficult." Book basically goes on to say, and i paraphrase, that if anyone tells you different, they are full of bull shyit.
We spend so much time working, doing all the bs in life that yes, romance falls to number 47 on the list of things to do. After pushing it out of your life for a while, it is hard to get up the energy to even attempt a date or a night out with spouse. Much easier to hang out on a computer talking to strangers.
2006-12-10 17:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course life gets in the way. When you work full time (even if you do not have kids) we are tired at the end of the day. Our days off get filled with laundry, bill paying, housework, grov=cery shopping, car and yard work.
You have to date. Talk with your partner, share your feelings and then start a date night for once or twice a month. This time is set aside (absolutely nothing prevents the date night from occurring). Time can be used to go out, talk, lay in bed, make love, sleep and make love again.
Do it and take care of the relationship because if you do not, you will wake up one day and ask yourself why you are there.
2006-12-10 16:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by loveseat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but it is like everything else in life you have to find the time to make romance work instead of going to the gym after work consider going home and making a romantic dinner for the hubby.
Then let the evening just unravel let him know that you are horny or want some action he will be more then open to the idea. God Bless and Good Luck.
2006-12-10 16:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are very right. Life, love, & happiness are all about finding a balancing point between the quality time you can spend with your special someone, & the time required to work to pay for "stuff". Living within your means is critical to helping maintain that balance & reduce unnecessary stresses on your time, finances, & relationship.
2006-12-10 16:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by Justin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're at a point in your life when you either need to do some time management, or, if you really are THAT busy that you have no time with your spouse, then decide what's most important to you and either deal with it, or cut back at work. If you're constantly working and never home simply for the money...to me, that's not worth it. I would much rather have time with my husband and our children. But that's something you have to decide for yourself.
2006-12-10 17:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by MACmommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course life gets in the way but both people must be willing to sacrifice and understand the needs of their spouses. Both must be willing to commit to the romance...date nights ect... to add spice to the relationship. The environment must be one that romance can occur in for example the home must be a place of PEACE!!!! You can't have romance in a hostile environment. Take a moment to get away from it all and bring the romance back!!!
2006-12-10 16:53:17 · answer #6 · answered by Dre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its always the simple things in life that make us happy and make love flourish,everyday life definately interferes with this,work,kids etc,however you must find the time to be together even if its once a week,do something alone together it doesn't have to cost alot remind eachother about what brought you together in the first place and how much you still love eachother!
2006-12-10 18:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by jewel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's time to have a talk a reset your priorities. If he pulls a "I don't see anything wrong with how things are now" on you, you might consider going elsewhere.
Things are not more important than feelings. They never have been and they never will be.
Good luck.
2006-12-10 16:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by Sheryl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, yes. Very much.
I've never been able to get the zing back...can't help ya there...sorry!
2006-12-10 16:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by spaabroadway 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
great ..
love and real life are really in contrast with money ..
even if (they) force us to follow money in order to be able to live in this hard world !!! but it is a solid fact that money must be under our controle , and we mustn't be under the controle of money at all ..
2006-12-10 16:43:28 · answer #10 · answered by horras 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋