this probably sounds really stupid but gay guys who haven't come out tend to go for me sometimes. i guess im kind of boyish (short hair and small chested.) but the guy i'm dating right now won't let me give him head but always tries to have anal or sex from behind. so does that mean anything or am i just being stupid?
2006-12-10 16:21:14 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
im not insecure and i don't hate gays. i have already been in a relationship with a guy who i loved and he came out to me and that just kind of put a damper on our whole relationship. don't want it to happen again.
2006-12-10 16:28:13 · update #1
+ i have never given him head before
2006-12-10 16:33:06 · update #2
Stick your finger up his ***, if he snuff the **** out of you...he's not gay. HAHAHA.....
2006-12-10 16:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by dolla4adutch 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure I am a lot older than you are but a guy who doesn't have any desire to hold you, kiss you and have some sex with him on top and you under, or visa versa and doesn't want oral sex but always wants to have anal sex or sex from behind has a problem. What he wants is ok in my book, but not if other ways haven't been enjoyed and tried as well. I'm almost 60 years old and honestly I have never had a guy not want me to preform oral sex on him. I have had some that wasn't interested in doing oral sex on me.
I advise that you have a talk about different moves for both of you, maybe toys for you or even for him, but I really think you need to find out where he is coming from.
By the way, is he willing to try anything new that you may have heard about or read about. If not, I do think you have a problem. Most young adults love to try different things if they are comfortable with their partner. Good luck!!
2006-12-10 16:33:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He’s not gay. Hell, I’m not gay and I never really got into a bj. It just didn’t do anything for me. If the chic wanted too.. well, okay. I would let her do it for her, but it did nothing for me.
AS for anal, Some guys like anal because it’s a tight fit. Maybe he’s on the small size and anal give’s him more pleasure? Could be a fetish too.
Best thing to do is really sit down and talk about it. You should be able to talk about sex with your partner. If you can’t then you have some problems. But, wanting anal and no BJ doesn’t make him gay and your appreance don't make him gay.
Best of luck
2006-12-10 16:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by Studio A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a gay guy (before he came out of the closet), and he never wanted to go down on me because he found it repulsive to do that to a woman, and then I figured out why. Major clue there.
I would be up front with your dude, and ask him if he's gay. But even if he says no, he's not gay, if the chemistry isn't there, and the relationship feels unreal or too forced, I'd break it off with him. Why waste your time?
2006-12-10 16:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know a straight guy that doesn't like head. But i know a lot of straight guys that like railing a chick from behind and/or anal. So see if he wants a three some with an other guy, and if he says yes, then he's gay, because I don't know any straight guy that wants a three some with an other guy.
2006-12-10 16:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by Tugon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Comin from a guy who's had all kinds of head and know a lotta guys who's gotten a lotta head...if he don't want you to give him head there's only two answers and conclusions
1) He's a lil dude...lol
2) He's G-A-Y
and even if dude is little he's still suspect cuz i dn't know any dude small or big that wouldn't be a lil interested in a BJ no matter what anybody says....holla dude he got some issues..seriously
2006-12-11 01:07:17 · answer #6 · answered by JAMES R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have different sexual fantasies. There are men that enjoy having oral sex and there are some that do not. Coming from what you have said about your boyfriend does not suggest anything suspicious about his sexual orientation. There are a lot of heterosexual men that like to perform anal sex. If you don't like having it, just let him know the way you feel about it. You need to talk and communicate with your boyfriend. Perhaps, he thinks you are loving it.
2006-12-10 16:30:06 · answer #7 · answered by pj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably not gay, he probably just likes the dominance aspect of taking you from behind. Also, maybe he just doesn't enjoy your blow jobs. First you should ask him if there anything you can do to make them more pleasurable for him. If he is not responsive to your questions it might just be that he is an asshole and you should dumb him for a better guy. Good luck!
2006-12-10 16:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by xocharlixo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him come to the decision on his own. If you ask him, you might put the idea into his head and make him think he is gay, when he might not be.
If he is gay, and he tells you, don't freak out on him. Try to handle it calmly, even if it comes as a bit of a shock to you.
2006-12-10 16:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by 真理沙 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shouldn't laugh...
you'll find that most guys will try and slip it behind -whether the ywant to admit it or not...
as for you saying you look boyish...it doesnt mean anything...my girlfriend that i used to go out with when i was younger had the sam e problem everyone she went out with ended up being gay ...
answer to your question...
Sorry luv..sounds like he could be...check his computer!!or under his bed!
x
2006-12-10 16:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by cinderfella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him and stop being paranoid. Then again, if you do have to go out of your way to confirm his sexuality, you're probably too insecure to be in a romantic relationship. Sounds like you have a poor self-image in terms of your femininity. Stop projecting your internalized fears of being unattractive on to your boyfriend - otherwise he will walk away......
2006-12-10 16:24:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋