What do woman really want from a man?

Question

This is meant to be a real real question. Nowadays it seems good manners, caring, and even love aren't enough, not to mention doing anything you would in your power for that special person. So perhaps I missed something so... what is it that woman want? Or is it that I just happen to be talking to the wrong ones...

Answer 1

It varies by woman.

There are some women who are shallow and don't want a decent man. They only want someone who is financially successful.

There are those of us who only want a decent man who has good manner, caring and love.

It sounds like you have only run into the shallow ones. Good luck finding a good woman.

Answer 2

Women talk with a consistently shifting set of "wants". Men are too macho, not macho enough, too sensitive or not sensitive enough and on and on..., and there is no in between.

You have to be the man and make a stand - whoops! But that's being a sexist pig. Try doing the modern day thing of cooperation on everything and include the "yes dear, no dear", you become whipped. A man today playing these games will end up either in a mental institution or suicidal. They never give you an absolute answer - just lots of denial about it.

After going through that for far too many years, not being able to please a woman because of her ever shifting ideas (no matter how hard I tried to go with the flow) I realized it was a lost cause. Love does not crush what it loves - the same goes for men who are physically abusive to wives..., abusing the one you love is outright stupid, insane and selfish.

A man has to be a man. This modern day Women's Lib after effects leaves a man wondering just what his place is. I say, don't play that game. Be who you are (as long as you don't abuse women) and if they cant be a real woman and let a man be a real man - We men just don't need them.

Answer 3

It depends upon the woman's personality, past experiences and current situation. Love and caring might not be enough for women who were financially deprived duirng her younger age, thus what she wants most is financial security. Some women were dessociated from her family during her childhood (maybe she is an orphan, or her parents were separated) then what he wanted most nowadays will be the best love and and care that a man could offer to compensate the love and care of her family that he didn't feel before. Another thing is UNDERSTANDING and PATIENT (the most important), woman really needs understanding and patient from her man always and forever, if a man fails to do so, then troubles will not be far away.

Answer 4

well, talking to the wrong ones is a definate possibility. when you get down to it, it depends on the woman. some want money, some sex, some just security.

physical attraction has to play at least -some- part in it, because they have to stand to look at you. kindness depends on what the individual wants. "nice enough" but not "too nice". same goes with politeness and caring. strong enough (not necessarily muscular) to make her feel safe/protected, but not so strong as to scare. protective, but not overbearing. basically, just balance out those "guy" qualities acording to what the other person is looking for. then again, you shouldnt have to sacrifice any part of yourself, but comprimises can be helpful. in the end, it's all a game of matching your qualities with another individual for a (near) perfect, and beautiful balance. play off each others' traits and make the both of you better as a whole.

ONE BIG HINT: look at yourself before and after a relationship. if you've improved, that type is good for you. what women want is only half of the equation. consider what YOU want/need as well.

Answer 5

I am kind of old, so I might not have the best answer, but I have a daughter and watch her and what she chooses for her boyfriends. As best that I can see, a woman wants a gentleman but she also at the same time wants a man that is macho, in other words she wants a man that is not scared of a fight with her and or anyone else. I honestly believe that men have it kind of hard, it is like women want 2 people in one man.

Answer 6

As I've come to understand it, above all else women want security, respect and a challenge. (Love goes without saying.) Just based on your statement, 'not to mention doing anything you would in your power for that special person', I get the impression that you might be too nice a guy. (I had this problem for a long time, myself.) What I've been told by many women, both ex-girlfriends and female friends, is that they want a man who has the guts to stand up for himself and put them in their place. A man who won't allow himself to be walked over. Now they readily admit that while you are actually standing up for yourself they will not be taking it 'sitting down', that they will in fact even get nasty about it oftentimes. But ultimately, they will admire and respect you for standing up to them - for being 'a Man'.

It's kind of like children: they give you nothing but attitude when you discipline them, but deep down inside that is exactly what they want and need from you as a parent. Well, as I've been told by women, they want and need a man who can and will stand up to them and put his foot down, when necessary. Now, not all women will agree to this - some are just power hungry B*****, but a good many will.

And they like a man who is a little dangerous. Or at least comes across that way from time to time. Give them a little adventure. But most importantly perhaps, they want a man who will respect them and their opinions. Though it sounds like you have that one covered. Oh yeah, don't always try to fix their problems! When they feel like crap and are complaining about their day, just put your arm around her and validate her feelings. If she wants you to fix her problem, she'll ask!

Of course, I'm just a guy. What the heck do I know what a woman really wants? hahahahaha

Answer 7

Lets see. I want from my husband. A kiss in the morning, a phone call at lunch (if he has time), A rose now and then, a slow dance with nothing on twice a week at least. oh and one more thing. For him to give the kids a bath when I'm taking a nap. Hope that helps.

Answer 8

Man take it from an old timer they r never satisfied they always ***** about something or the other that u r or r not doing. Just agree with whatever and try to pretend u r really happy for their sake. U might get a thank u every once in a while.

Answer 9

Seems to me that your doing everything right. Maybe try to listen more to what she really has to say will help. I've found that it's always the little things that a man does the ones that don't really matter that always count more!

Answer 10

It depends on the woman. It's good to hold out for a woman who feels the same way about you that you feel about her. I have been used (financially) by men, & my man of 3 years has been used by women. We could have both avoided a lot of heartache & expense if we'd met earlier.