I'm a shy person, what can I do to get over it?

Question

I hardly talk, only aroud family, and people I know. Not only am I shy around people, but I usually hardly have anything to say.

Answer 1

i know what you mean. i am a very shy person. sometimes when i'm in a group and people are talking i just don't really know what say. i want to say something but i don't know what. then people think i'm useless to talk too. it's like you gotta get to know me really well for me to talk. and i can talk to family all the time with out any shyness. but i'm better now.it's easy for me. here are some tips that helped me and that i hope can help you.


1. just jump into a conversation. don't be afraid. it's ok not to talk but more fun if ya do. start slow then once you think you got it go for it!

2. don't stay in a little corner if there's agroup of people talking. just take a deep brethe and walk over to them.

3. be funny. if all eles fails then be funny!

4. try being your self. i thought about it and said. no one will ever know who the real me is if i never show them! so i just think of it that way. you want people to know who YOU are not who your NOT!

5. why be shy anyway? a lot of shy people just want to talk to people but can't find the right words or scared to move to fast. there's no point in being shy! just be bold go out there and have fun! life's to short not to. we only have a little bit of time on this earth and HAVE to live it to the fullest. so think as if your going to die tomorrow. what can you do today?

6. practice talking in the mirror. i know it sounds stupid but do it. talk to it so you can talk to people easy.

7. if you can't talk in big groups then talk to one person at a time. and work your way up.

8. fake it. if your shy then just jump out of your body and go into a body of someone who is really social! be your self of course. but you need to jump out of you skin and get in there!

9. befor a social event sing. this also sounds funny but do it. sing a happy song that get's you going. and dance to! be happy and ready to face the world with a smile. this will get you pumped and make you ready to talk to anyone!

10. this is something so small. and something you can over come! it's not as hard as you think and you know that. don't be scared to be your self cuz it's the only thing that makes us all diffrent. it is something that can be fixed with no problem. so remember it's a small task on a small list!




hope this stuff could help you! i learned from it and hope you can as well. it's not hard starting the car, but the real test is climbing in.

Answer 2

I am a very shy person as well, unusual since i have to be able to small talk for my line of business. here is some advice though get a friend to start up a conversation with some one that you are interested in. Have this worked out with a friend b 4 hand. Then you can take over the conversation and your friend can just fade into the background but still be there to assist if needed. Once you get to know the person more then you will start to feel comfortable and the conversation will just flow.

Answer 3

Well first of all you have to find out what is the source that is keeping you from speaking out. Are you afraid that you say something stupid or you do understand what is being said? If you are afraid of speaking out or just going up to people and speak then you might not be very confident about yourself. If you aren't then invest in yourself and get pretty. It always work for a woman who is not very confident about her look. When you do that then walk up to a dangerously hott woman that you have always fantasized about and ask her out. Not in a creepy way or too confident that's the trick ask her in a very casual way as though if she says yes or no it doesn't matter althought you are dying inside don't let it show. You'll see take it from a woman who is hard to get...
There is also the other opproach you can start a very casual conversation according to your sorroundings or situation. For example you say if you happen to be in the rain sheltering with someone you say, "this rain is really wet!" just in a joke and trust me girls like funny guys well at least I do...

Answer 4

I Am an overly shy individual. I would possibly speak to u like I have recognized u for the final five years on Y!A. But if I see you in truly existence I wont even appear at ur face. I shall be hiding it with my hair or cap. I by no means talked with a individual in truly existence except they talked with me first. But in Y!A I wager I Am quite open.

Answer 5

When you've got something to say voice it. I mean, you have to open up and share what you know because too much of being quiet can be annoying. Talk about something you want to share or topic you have in mind, or just say anything that comes to mind, your natural response. If you don't get a nice feedback don't take it personally and just open up and be heard for who you are.

Answer 6

start taking drugs they will help ur confidence like u wouldnt believe u will make friends and have heaps of **** to talk about that u never even thought u knew about and no longer be shy


bt dont tell ur family

Answer 7

Just be yourself, and honest about who you are..relax and have fun..talk about what you like to do and where you like to go, what good places to eat, books you read, movies, and just don't talk about yourself ask people what they like to do and their interests..go with the flow...maybe go out and get a new style of hairdo..clothes, different colognes, exercise and it will give you more confidence..good luck

Answer 8

step up relax and try to get a conversation with someone you think you can be friends with you never no that person can be your friend for life. Good Luck!

Answer 9

If you have interest that other people share, you should join them and that way it would be easier to become more social if you around people who like what you like.

Answer 10

Smoke a joint and talk 2 people but make shur u dont look or smell like ur high oh ya and be confident.