No one can read minds, but most can read body language. I can't. I have no idea how to tell if a guy is interested in me or not, and it frustrates me! And I am extremely shy which doesn't work out in my favour. I am 16 years old. I wouldn't say I am beautiful, but I'm not ugly either. My main insecurity is my thighs, and I have no idea what guys think of me. Even though I shouldn't be worried, I am. I lost my self-confidence back in gr 9 and I want to get it back, but I am afraid of how to go about it. Guys, if you don't mind sharing some of your thoughts it would be greatly appreaciated.
2006-12-10 16:01:49 · 8 answers · asked by Kumi 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
Most people can't read body language and never even think of it. They just respond to it mindlessly, and there's where you have an opportunity. Learn it! Pick the guy YOU want and learn how to stand a little too close, tip your head and smile just right, play with your hair, walk away and look back over your shoulder. Get a book on it and search it on the internet. If you get good at it, that'll give you the confidence you need. Practice. It's the bounce in your walk and how you hold yourself.
A psychologist once sat in a bar watching interactions, mainly watching how men approached women. It was the women who made the choice. He watched men start from across the room toward a woman and either keep going or freeze and retreat. All on the basis of wordless interaction. And they weren't aware of it; it was entirely instinctive.
2006-12-10 16:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get so worried about it. Guys are sometimes really hard to figure out. A guy i thought hated me, ended up having the biggest crush on me. If you spend alot of time trying to figure out if some one likes you, it won't turn out good. Just go with the flow, if you like a boy, and are really curious if he likes you, go try to talk to im. I know its hard, especially if your shy. I used to be shy, and still am a little, but you just got to suck up the courage and go talk to him! Its best if you have a friend with you though, it makes you less nervous. Why did you loose your self-confidence? No one should ever loose that! Guys like girls with confidence in them selves, so try to boost your conf. a little more. The best thing or me is getting a new haircut, or clothing, it always makes me feela little more confident if i look sexy -_^. So good luck, and sorry my answer was a little long... email me if you want to talk
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2006-12-11 00:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by Momo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 is a rough age. I know you are looking for answers from guys, but it wasn't too long ago that I was in your shoes either.
The best thing you can do is be confident in yourself. Guys don't like to have to spend a lot of time boosting confidence. If you think you're beautiful, guys will notice. Not that they should only like you for looks either ... but unfortunately that is what they notice first.
My insecurity was always my thighs too ... and honestly, no one is probably seriously noticing. I always hated my legs and then when I met my bf, he actually thought I was crazy for it. They prolly aren't as bad at you think.
2006-12-11 00:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres a secret... most of the guys are probably just as insecure and worried as you are! Just start making friends with guys, and if you get more interested in him ask him if he wants to hang out sometime.. the rest will come with time. If you start out making friends first, it's less scary and you'll have made a new friend anyways! :)
2006-12-11 00:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots and lots and lots of guys love thighs so dont worry if you have a good personality and im betting you do things will work out.
2006-12-11 00:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by saturn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all dont loose your selfconfidence. dont accept loss before going to bettele field. always think positive. u are young. surely guys will read your body language and they will approach u. good luck. be positive in life.
2006-12-11 00:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by rajan naidu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well just glance at him and if he was looking at you then maybe but if he talks to you alot then he probly is just flirt with him and if he flirts back your set
2006-12-11 00:10:27 · answer #7 · answered by chibz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm...i am thinking..
2006-12-11 00:06:10 · answer #8 · answered by Eddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋