I want to marry my boyfriend soooo bad but he doesnt want to i dont see the problem we have a kid together that is about to be one we also live with eachother in our own apartment...whats wrong he told me once that we have only know eachother for 2 yrs and that we Really dont know eachother to well!...what does this mean? im confused!
2006-12-10 15:59:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it means marriage is a big step and he is taking it slow.
2006-12-10 21:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by Akela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is one opinion:
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All the older guys I know, guys that are 55 and older are telling me the same story; don't do it. It just turns to crap no matter what you do. They'd rather be independent. At best it's a tedious bore. At worst a living hell with financial ruin thrown in for good measure. The problem is that when you're young, you just naturally fall into this mind set where your whole self image is based on how women regard you, and so you spend all your money and energy trying to make yourself acceptable to them. Then later in life the shine wears off and you finally realize that you've wasted yourself on a bunch of crap.
Children - "the ultimate human experience"
I couldn't even begin to list all of the older folks i know from work or through my family with kids they either don't get along with, are disappointed in, or are so distant as to not even be a factor in each other's lives.
I'm really skeptical about the idea of children as "the ultimate blessing." How many friends do you have with little or no meaningful contact or relationships with their parents?
I would wager the statistic for happy child/parent relations would be as bad, if not worse, than the marriage numbers. Who wants to deal with TWO bitter, unfulfilling relationships?!
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2006-12-11 00:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He means he wants to be sure its only been two years you been together. It takes a while for the real you to come out and expose each other to what that is. I got married 10 months after being with my ex. I did not know how emotionally weak she was at the time. There are some truths that take time to get to, and he just wants to be sure
2006-12-11 00:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by Jose G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that you jumped into a marriage-type relationship with him before getting married. You're living together and have a kid - what incentive is there to get married? He's getting everything he would want or need from a marriage, without the legal hassle.
2006-12-11 00:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may be worried that your relationship may change with marriage and it scares him. But really after two years and a child
he must know you and he is not ready to commit to you and may never he feels secure in your relationship and is happy he may also not believe in the whole marriage thing. Tell him that 2yrs is plenty of time to get to know someone and if he was okay with you having your child why cant he make an honest women out of you.
2006-12-11 00:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it aint broke don`t fix it!!! What difference does a stupid piece of paper saying that you`re married mean? Unless you want leverage for the future divorce so you can steal half his money!!!
Ever heard that there is a food that can cut a womans sex by up to 90%? Its called wedding cake!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-11 01:14:05 · answer #6 · answered by Stogie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not ready to marry you, leave him alone & don't ever ask him again or else he will leave you. Men will commit when they are good & ready.
2006-12-11 00:21:47 · answer #7 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its crazy to say that you know each other well enough to live together and for you to have his child,but not enough to marry you ? it seems like hes alittle afraid of marriage or maybe is unsure of your relationship ,i would talk to him about what your feeling and maybe let him know you will not wait forever for him to "know you " thats crazy .
2006-12-11 00:05:08 · answer #8 · answered by tiffanyh2323 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DONT BE CONFUSE.. IT'S JUST THAT HE DONT WONT TO MARRY YOU. A CHILD DONT MAKE HIM WANT YOU NO MORE.....BUT LET ME TELL YOU HE FEEL THAT ITS EASY TO STAY WITH YOU AND PLAY HOUSE .. SO IF HE DECIDES TO LEAVE IT WONT BE NO STRINGS ATTACHED.. DO YOU GET THE PIC..GGET YOUR ACT TOGETHER AND MOVEON IF HE DONT WANT TO STEP UP TO THE PLATE...
2006-12-11 00:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it means he is happy the way things are and he doesnt want to make it legal. divorce is so ugly and then she wants all your money and all your stuff...
2006-12-11 00:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by tiare 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋