I'm not popular at my school. I have a few friends, but there not popular either. But does it really matter? Like when high school is finished and I go to university, and then start looking for jobs or whatever, would being popular in high school affect any of that? If a person in high school is popular does it make the rest of their life better or make them feel better about themselves in the future?
2006-12-10 15:51:57 · 44 answers · asked by Alyssa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it doesn't matter, you move away and never look back and become someone important!!!!!!!!!!!! The only time it would matter if you live in a small hick town and you stay there.Since that's all they remember is high school, the only time they were important.
2006-12-10 15:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by Apple 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You know it really is a shame that there is such an emphasis on popularity in school, especially high school. Personally, I think it's rediculous to measure ones self worth on the opinions of others, which is exactly what popularity is. In school I was fairly popular, but through life that popularity had nothing to do with how I performed in college or at any job I have ever had. I think you and the friends you have should be having a good time with each other and appreciate the friendships you do have. The people that you are worried about thinking about how popular you are or aren't, you will most likely never see again. Perhaps even the friends you have now, once you are through with high school, you may not see again, or may not be close to in the future. You will make new friends in college, then you will make new friends when you start a new career. Just be yourself and have a great time with the people you end up being around. Then you will feel popular whether you are or not. Cause that's really all popular people do, they have a good time with the people they hang around with, they are only popular because other people are too busy comparing themselves to the poplular people instead of having a good time with the ones around them. I guess the bottom line is don't compare yourself, be yourself, and have a good time.
2006-12-10 16:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by Teresa M 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, sorry to crash your party here since I'm 41 yrs. old and no longer 40 but, I felt like chiming in on the subject! It matters to most of us when we're going but, as you get older and get out you tend to not care as much. It depends on how you were treated. Myself, I was an average student, played a half season of basketball in 10th grade could've made softball but, getting good grades and my license was more important than sports. I got along with just about everybody so, I don't think I belonged to any clique! Now, I'm a "Domestic Engineer" do I get a payroll check for what I do not really, but, my husband is a good provider to the point that I'm able to stay at home and take care of our son as well as the household. I'm happy to be able to do that. I enjoy going to the H.S. Reunions, of course there's some that are still the same jackass' that they were back then just older. Popular kids will actually speak to you now and not be fake. The nerdy people have done really well for themselves. The unattractive people actually some have become pretty nice looking. It would be nice if school could be more about your grades and less about popularity or a fashion show but, that's the way it has been for a very long time and I don't see it changing anytime soon! The sad thing is you're begining to see it flood over into the Middle School as well as Elementary School.
2016-05-23 04:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, being popular in high school doesn't mean crap. once they get out of school they're nothing special. Some have a really hard time facing that fact. Feeling good about yourself is always a good thing. But thinking your stuff don’t stink .. those are the people are going to have a hard time after high school.
Today I see some of the popular kids. The girls are fat and ugly and the guys are just as bad. Many find their way into fast food or some factory job... so don't worry about being popular or not. Or what they think. You just make sure you study and get good grades so you get into a good college and find yourself a great job!! Work hard so you can site back later in life and enjoy!
2006-12-10 16:04:38 · answer #4 · answered by Studio A 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't really matter if you are popular in high school or not, the key is simply having genuine friends. Less than 50% of high school relationships will last past graduation anyhow, and you will see how superficial the majority of the 'clicks' and 'BFF's' were.
When you begin University, who you were in high school, socially, means very litttle. The prettiest girl from grade 12 will easily get lost in the crowd at university. And once life starts, no one has time to think about high school, so no, I don't think being a hot shot in the past would make anyone particularly 'happier' in the future.
However, if you know 'benificial' and positive people in your life, they can help you get places. Connections are often the way of advancement, but 'popularity' isn't necessarily a synonym for that.
2006-12-10 16:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by ebonii_cuteee 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No! It doesn't not matter. How many students, of the popular person, send him/her money after high School? How many sends the popular person birthday or Christmas gifts after high school? How many help the popular person to get a job/profession after high school?
In fact, how does being popular in high school help you in life, at all?
If you want meaningful relationships, live you life by the rules we all know that we are called to observe!
Never sell your integrity, compromise your ethics, or moral values. Integrity should be the corner stone of all your endeavors.
And always let responsibility be the guide of your undertakings!
You will not have millions of friends or be the most popular, but those around you will be true friends. The world turned its back on Jesus Christ and still does, do you think it will treat you any better?
2006-12-10 16:07:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. The popular kids will have the best time of their lives in high school. For 4 years they are the center of attention...important. They have a big reality check when they graduate and go to work or college. They are no longer popular or the center of attention anymore. So my answer to you is NO, it doesn't matter if you are popular in high school. Don't worry about being popular. When you graduate nobody will care that you were homecoming queen or head cheerleader. You will probably be able to adjust better in the real world than they will.
2006-12-10 15:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
nope once highschool is done its done the only thing it helps is having friends in college because most "popular" highschool kids go to the same schools as their other "popular" friends so you don't have to make all new friends from the start. For less popular kids in highschool college and life after is a fresh start making friends in college may help get better jobs since getting a job these days is not what you know but WHO you know.
I was very unpopular in highschool a teacher once even said in a full classroom after a school shooting was on the news if she had to pick someone at our school who might do something like that it would have been me. Never really talked to people except for projects never invited to parties hung around with the janitors for entertainment during free period but in college I had alot of parties and many friends and one even helped land a great job at his dads company
2006-12-10 16:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by topgunpilot22 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It does in my opinion, but only because of the sense that you are focusing on it. Really and truly, long run, high school means next to nothing, just make the best of it while you can. I was fairly popular in high school, but was never going to be prom king by any stretch of the imagination.
Where I do think that it comes into play is simply how YOU think of YOU, if you think of yourself in terms of who your friends are, its going to kill you the rest of your life. When your in college and looking for jobs, confidence can be seen. If your to concerned w/ appearance (which is really all high school was about) your not going to get the job offers you want, and that is the whole point of getting an education, not finding as many friends as possible.
Just be happy w/ yourself and don't worry about how many friends you have, or, who they are. A few good true friends will go a whole lot further than a whole lot of acquaintances. Just live your life as you think makes you happiest, it will all turn out as it should.
2006-12-10 16:09:05 · answer #9 · answered by WAF 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From the life of hard knocks and experience, I have learned (Sometimes the hard way) that being popular in School at any grade does NOT in any way, shape, or form matter to anyone. When you get older and have children, you will find out.
The only reason to be popular in School is to get good grades and if you have to, be the teacher's pet-that helps out more than being popular ever will.
2006-12-10 15:57:31 · answer #10 · answered by ellis4655@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not in the slightest, because who you are in high school has little to no bearing on who you will be as an adult.
You're not a finished product yet. You're still in your cute little cocoon growing your wings. I thought I had it all figured out in high school (everyone does), but I was wrong.
I was pretty popular in high school. At least, I had a lot of friends and acquaintances. But now that's a memory. Besides, high school friendships tend to be superficial. I don't talk to anyone now that I knew in high school-- they've all moved away or we grew apart.
When you're an adult you will realize that popularity means very little. Being a genuinely good human being means a lot. So be a good human being, work hard, try to attain wisdom and enjoy life, and the rest will take care of itself.
2006-12-10 15:54:59 · answer #11 · answered by Lanani 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋