STOP BULLYING ME! please...?

Question

I'm a freshman, almost 15, and only 4'11". I go to a small school with only 90 in each grade. I am made fun of all the time for being wealthy, having nice things (don't ask me why, I dont know), standing up for what I believe in, and mst of all, FOR BEING SHORT! I hate it, and I know I can't stand up for myself by fighting, im not strong. But it is constant, the making fun of me, ive tried everything, ignoring it, taking up for myself, which did not work out t well, i got my @ss beat, and they make fun of that too. And this hurts me bad, mentally. It's so bad they even make fun of me for having worked on a childrens full length professional movie (special effects). Im not a nerd either. Even know im short, I still have good looks, and a 6 pack. I only weigh 83 pounds. They make fun of me everyday, non stop, and it bothers me so much. About 55 of the 90 people make fun of me, and about 20 just never talk to me. WHAT SHOULD I DO? PLEASE TELL ME!

Answer 1

i think they make fun of u because they are jealous i know it sounds weird but its true. all i can say to do is to just ignore what they say and just laugh with them if they see ur laughing too then they'll know its not bothering u and eventually it wont be fun to them anymore. good luck.

Answer 2

They are not going to stop, it seems so bad that even if you told your teacher/principal it would only succeed in alienating you more.You need to leave this school, so yes tell the teachers get them punished and then leave so you don't have to deal with the fall out. When you get to your new school don't make yourself a target just blend in and don't make a point of talking about your achievements and money, wait until you have made some friends and only involve them in what goes on in your life and make them a part of it, none of it is any body Else's business anyway. I am not saying you should be ashamed of what you have but as you have already found out kids are fickle and cruel and any hint of boasting even if unintentional on your part will only set the bullies off again. You may go through school with only a few select friends who know the real you but just think how stupid the rest of them will feel when you all leave school and you make it big while they are all working their 9-5's and not achieving much? they will be spitting acid when they realise they could have made friends with a future star. Anyway good luck and keep your chin up! don't let them make you fight them because at the end of the day the school system will punish you too, it's unfair but it's true.

Answer 3

I was made fun of as a child, but probably not as bad and continuous as you. I do empathize with you.
I didn't realize until years later, many of these people were actually jealous of me and my twin sister. I never understood that, because I always thought they had more than me.

Do you come across as shy and timid ? Even if you don't feel like it inside, try coming across as a person with self esteem and confidence. I'm assuming you don't have much of this, because you have been beaten down. That maybe isn't the case.

I think I'm sort of grasping at straws to answer this question. I really feel for you and want to come up with the perfect solution.....Hmmmm?

With many species the dominant one pecks on the weaker ones. It's called a pecking order. I say come across as being strong. Don't try and prove anything to them. Be strong for yourself. Hopefully you will get the benefit of them backing down or even being your friend.

Use something you excel in to draw them in. When they seem interested, include them.

It's possible a few of them feel the same way you do. Maybe by knowing that, you might see a few of them in a different light.

In your paragraph I see you as a very kind, caring, smart & creative individual. Don't lose that. That's a quality many people are drawn to.

I didn't mean to write a chapter, but I know how serious this can be.

Being a freshman means you are at the bottom of the totum pole. Without a bottom to a totum pole, it wouldn't stand tall.
Take your place as a freshman proudly.
Wow, that sounds so philosophical.
Be proud of yourself and walk that way. Don't misunderstand, being too proud can come across as arrogant. And you don't want that.
Good luck !!!

Answer 4

Have you tried speaking to the school administration about the lack of respect in your school? None of this should be tolerated! You could be driven into a depression or even worse, violence, as a reaction to this stress. Do you have parents who are willing to talk to the Prin.? You go to a very cruel school and I truly feel for you and your well-being. Have you ever seen a doctor about growth issues? I know this is personal but you might have a problem that could be addressed medically. Please see a counselor at school or in your community as soon as possible. You need support to get through this or your life will be ruined by these cruel, ignorant jerks. You need a support system and someone to stand by you. Thankfully you sound like a really great and talented person with a future. Make sure you contact the police if you are assaulted even if at school. If one idiot gets in a bunch of trouble it may send out a message. If you have the income to do it, get a security company to check in on you at school. This will send a message to the school that you have a real problem here. Last but not least, think about changing schools, this one sounds so toxic that you may not thrive there. Best of luck to you!!

Answer 5

Tell your mom and dad, get them to have the school deal with this. Its the schools job remember.
Just keep your head down and concentrate on your studies, find friends with similar interests. Bullies are less likely to give you a hard time when you are with a group of people.
As for being 4'11 so what, no one told you good things come in small packages :-) As you say, you have good looks, a 6 pack, are clever which is probably why these people give you a hard time - they are jealous.

Answer 6

There just angry because they dont have what you have. Iv notice that people get jealous of each other very easily, and they will try everything in there power to make you feel bad to make themselves feel better, because they know they can get to you, that's why you keep getting bullied. You shouldn't let this happen to yourself. Wheres your self confidence? All there doing is trying to tare you down, so dont let them do that. Keep fighting for yourself, no matter how bad it gets. Believe me, all this will get better if you keep fighting. The same thing happened to me, im only 13.

OH and being transferd to a diffrent school isnt going to work. Its only going to show them that they got to you, and they won. Try some boxing, or self defence classes, maybe that will help you. But only use the boxing if it gets to bad, Hope you do ok=)

Answer 7

I wish I lived near you - I'd let you call me whenever you need help - I'm big, tough and very strong and I'd kick some @ss for you! Wish I was there to help. Just remember that mean kids often make mean adults, so just avoid them and stick to your good friends! Take some self-defense like martial arts or something. Maybe even just tai-chi so you can feel better about this situation. You seem like a good person, and believe me - you don't deserve this and it won't be this bad forever. Just make some good friends that you feel that you can trust and stay away from trouble. Don't let them make you cry and don't let them disrespect you. They see you as a threat because they know you have beauty and you have a future that they might not have. Deep down they envy you and that's why they're taking cheap shots at you while they can. They resent you because you represent all of the things they WISH they could be. Just stay away from them and please be careful of who you trust and wherever you go. Things will get better after high school.

Answer 8

Forget about it and concentrate on school. It won't last forever and the ones who are doing the bullying will probably end up on welfare anyway and you'll never see them again. If it's really tough then tell someone about it but to be honest it's only a few short years then you'll never see them again. Let yourself be the butt of their jokles and then when you've actually achieved something in life you'll have the last laugh.

Answer 9

Many people find that joining in with the jokes stops it! Many of the great comedians, (Billy Conoly and Lenny Henry for example) learned their craft y using humour to defeat school bullies.
I realise that what you are going through is NOT funny but maybe it is an answer.
Good luck friend!

Answer 10

Take up Boxing and gain some self confidence, which will shine through after you have been doing it a while, and if need be you will also be able to look after yourself if the need arises. Some of the best Boxers in the world are your size. i feel if you follow this route you will also gain RESPECT. Even though you shouldn't have to.

All the best, trust me give it a go! :)

Answer 11

Im agreeing with Jon...get your head down ignore em...i know in alot of ways its harder said than done but at the end of the day your going to be the one that gets somewhere... the people that give you grief are going to be the dropouts...there the real losers there just not going to realise until its to late...As for fighting them...don't doi it..theres no need to resort to any type of violence...also your still growing!faie enough your n ot going to be the tallest person in the world...lo ve your size love yourself..dont get bitter just get through it...you'll be going to college or wherever in no time...just make sure you get the grades to get where your going mr!