and i think that they are cool with me,they seem to stab me in the back.Now i'm naturally a complimenting person,even to those less fortunate,but for some reason people end up hating me even if i don't intend them to dos so.Could it be some sort of jealousy on their part Or is there something deeper behind it.I do tend to take thingsTOO seriously and am oversensitive,so that could also be a tur-off to people who are trying to joke around with me and lighten things up.Otherwise,i give people no reasons to hate me besoides being overemotional towards them at times.
2006-12-10 15:37:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Maybe it's the intonation or inflection in your voice that causes a problem and you don't realize it. Speak to a family member you know and trust that will be truthful with you and ask that person point blank if your inflection and/or intonation cause people to act negatively towards you. If it is the case, find someone who is willing to help you work on that. Best wishes!
2006-12-10 15:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem also, i sometimes talks or speaks something that hurt my friends feeling without realizing. My jokes are often offensive and my lack of emotion control makes my friends hate me, even if i am trying to defend something what is right.
What's right and appropriate for you may not be for others, you cannot always expect everybody will be nice or good or sincere as you are, that's how people are. One thing that i know, anger will not resolve into something good. Suppressed your expectation towards other, if you want to do good, if you want to compliment others, never expect anything out of it.
Try to be patient, i know its hard but patience will work. If something bothers you and you feel that you need to do or say something about it, take a few minutes to think if it will make a good outcome or not.
I myself have been trying these things also but still fails sometimes. Never give Up!
2006-12-10 20:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by affle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, do self analysis and ask yourself "When people are talking, do I get more offended or more laughter/thoughts?" "If I think about it, can what that person said easily be something nice rather then mean?" if your answers come unfavorably, you may be a bit oversensitive.
As for backstabbings, if you're a kind person, they're a regular. My advice is simply to not share anything unnecessarily that could get you backstabbed over.
2006-12-10 15:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by Cory W 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u r just a sensitive queer, no pun intended. ur over sensitivity throws ur emotions out of whack and it's hard for some ppl to deal with it. Loosen up start letting ur humorous side evolve u'll be ok.
2006-12-10 15:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can be the nicest person but you cannot be friends with everyone and you cannot please everyone. If you fell you are being "stabed in the back" held off on sharing emotions with someone until the time is right and that person can be trusted.
2006-12-10 15:42:48 · answer #5 · answered by perr_dogg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, same thing happens to me sometimes. You just gotta ignore them, they're jealous.
2006-12-10 15:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by Greg S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you were going for their gf. Or maybe you just talk too much.
2006-12-10 15:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by peon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋