My boyfriend broke up w/ me 2 months ago.He never really gave me a reason.We celebrated his birthday & he said he loved(like normal)& ten 2 days later it was over.Wednesday night his mother died. I met him through her.Her and I were close friends.I met her @ work.I would have lunch w/ her 1-2 a wk for yrs. I met him about a year ago, she introduced us.I fell for him almost immediately.He is so caring & kind.He never gave me a reason for the break-up.I assumed it was b/c of his grief over his mother's cancer.Tonight, I hurt for the lose of my friend, but my heart breaks for him.I took him & his family a dinner last night.For the past 2 months though we've been apart physically but i have been going thru this w/ him. I loved her & I love him so much.I want to be there for him now in his time of need, but he shows no emotion really & I don't know what to do.The funeral was a lovely tribute to her. He kept glancing over at me. I hope that was a sign that he was glad i was there. Any Advice
2006-12-10 15:14:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i am sure he values u, and loves u, just give it time, and allow him his space right now, wait and see what happens. maybe he has been upset about his mom's illness, and it is hard when we loose a parent. just be patient and wait and see.
2006-12-10 15:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would say that at this time just be there for him.. and it may simply mean a note or a card.
My note would say: Your mother meant the world to me (and you do too). I am here for you and only a phone call away. (attach this note to a gift basket or some flowers)
I'd keep is simple.. short and sweet and to the point.
Let him make his own decisions right now and his own way. I'm surprised you didn't know why he broke up with you. You should always have communication and never second guess things. But for now.. at this time in his life.. just leave it at the above and take things up later if you can.
2006-12-10 23:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a really good book on the subject and it will answer all of your questions, it is called "He is just not that into you" and a real eye opener for every woman who ever believed that a relationship that has run it's course can be revived. There are so many terrific available men, just hang in there. Good Luck.
2006-12-10 23:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time. But continue to be in his life. He's going through a very rough time right now, just be supportive and give him some space. He'll come around when he's ready. I'm so sorry for your loss.
2006-12-10 23:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time if his mother has passed away his focus isnt going to be about relationships....theres a saying if you love him set him free if he comes back hes yours if he doesnt he never was.Support him as you have been he has a circle of grief to go through.......good luck
2006-12-10 23:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by blue_eyed_woman_of_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know that you are there for him, for whatever he needs.
If he takes you up on your offer, just be his friend.
Don't bring up your past relationship right now, if he wants you back the conversation will come up at a later time.
2006-12-10 23:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋