I'm 9 months along now and I still don't feel like I have a "connection" with my unborn son. I felt so close to my 3 year old daughter while I was pregnant with her but I'm not feeling the same way with this pregnancy. It was a planned pregnancy and I am happy/excited but kind of scared because I know it will be a huge change having 2 children now, plus my husband and I have been having some minor marital issues but nothing HUGE. But I dont understand why I wouldn't feel connected to him. I'm hoping this isn't a sign of oncoming post pardum depression. It makes me feel really guilty... Anyone else go through anything like this??
2006-12-10 14:58:07 · 11 answers · asked by ღ♥ Katie ♥ღ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I posted a question almost like this last week. I feel the exact same way about this baby. I was so excited about my daughter and this time around I just don't seem to feel anything at all. I even got on Lexapro to help with some of the depression I've been having. Unfortunately, these types of feelings usually do indicate that you will suffer from some post-partum depression. There are a lot of antidepressants that you can take if you need to that are safe to breastfeed with while on. They've been helping me. Maybe it helps to know that there are a lot of other people out there that feel the same way.
I felt really bad about even posting the question because it made me so sad and I didn't want to seem like a horrible mother. I'm glad that you found the courage to reach out and ask other people if they feel the same way. You will get through it. Stay strong.
2006-12-10 16:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same exact way during my 2ND pregnancy! It is normal I assure u. It's just not the same as the first time, considering that so much time and effort goes into caring for ur first child. Add to that ur worries about the change of now having 2 kids and ur problems w/hubby, it's no wonder that u don't hv ur mind on the baby. I talked with my midwife n others about this n everyone was very supportive n assuring that this happens all the time. Yes, u feel some guilt but don't get too worked up over it, not good for baby or u...u KNOW u want n love that child and u WILL b in love with him just as much as u are with ur daughter. Definitly talk to ur Dr. about ur concerns.
Good luck n Congratulations!
2006-12-10 15:16:15 · answer #2 · answered by •♦๑•TxRose•♦๑• 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are just so busy with your daughter that it is hard to focus on your new one. This is completely normal, with my second and now third pregnancy you just don't have time to obsess about or focus on anything but your children that are already outside of the womb! I felt this way with both #2 and now #3 and I completely fell in love with my daughter (#2) when she arrived! If it makes you feel less guilty then focus on your unborn baby for a few minutes in bed at night, but I think you will be just fine!!
2006-12-10 15:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by Charlotte G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk w/ your OB about this, I would call tommorow. Post Pardum depression can start before you even have the baby (weird I know) depending on how they evaluate you he may or may not start you on anti depressents or wait until you are to be discharged once you have the baby. Post pardum depression affects many women, nothing to be asamed of, just something many woman need a little help to get over. Best of Luck
2006-12-10 15:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is my third child. I immediately bonded with my other children throughout my previous pregnancies. this time it has been very different. I feel protective over my unborn child. I make sure to make very healthy decisions to ensure the baby's health. I make sure to eat a balanced diet, not take any otc medications, etc. but I don't feel that bond that I felt so intensely before. It scares me. I feel like a failure as a mother. I hate feeling like this. I am glad I am not the only one. I wish you luck and will pray for you. Please do the same for me.
2006-12-10 15:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by micg 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-17 09:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by arnold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wanted to give my baby to my mum until i felt a little more ready!!! had no connection with my son in utero, took about 2 weeks after his birth and then it hit me like a tonne of loved up bricks! dont worry too much as this may lead to causing post partum dep in itself.
2006-12-10 15:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I did and am now, but that was after a late term miscarriage. My doctor thinks its normal in my case. I would talk to your doctor about it, maybe catch something (PPD if thats what it turns into) before it gets bad.
2006-12-10 15:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have a connection with mine while i was pregnant, it's hard to have a connection with something you don't know yet
once you see him/her i'm sure you'll feel it then, if not, theres always councelling
2006-12-10 15:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think when you have the baby youll feel different
2006-12-10 15:04:46 · answer #10 · answered by juliesan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋