First time with sex....?

Question

yea the first time i had sex with my girlfriend she got a UTI...and she doesnt want to get a gynecologyst so her parentts wont know aht shes not a virgin. we used condoms and were clean ( in terms of bacteria like we were in a clena bed and such) but is there any danger to have sex again with her without her having a gyenecologyst i am really worried for her

Wow...its great adn wonderful that all you people could help me with this problem!! but i was wondering if there are any other risks that we should be aware of and maybe ways we can treat/prevent them.??

Answer 1

Better be safe than sorry........

Answer 2

People can get a UTI lots of ways, not just sex. Sometimes just being too stressed out can lower your immune system and make you weak to getting a UTI. She doesn't need to go to a gynecologist. A gynecologist treats your reproductive system. A UTI is not part of the reproductive system, it's an infection of the urinary system (bladder, kidneys, etc). She should go to her regular doctor and tell them the symptoms. Even kids can get a UTI, it has nothing to do with being a virgin. They'll give her some antibiotics and it'll be cleared up in no time. The doctor probably won't even care if she's a virgin or not.

In the future, to avoid another UTI, she should try to drink a lot of water, take vitamins and exercise to keep her immune system healthy, avoid douching or using harsh soaps around her vaginal area that can cause an imbalance down there (surprisingly, antibacterial soaps are a bad idea too because they kill the "good" bacteria and leave her vulnerable to "bad" bacteria that can cause problems like what she's got now), and try to remember to urinate after sex to flush away any bacteria she might have come in contact with (even if her partner and bed seem clean, there are lots of bacteria everywhere, just naturally).

By the way, alot of people here are saying that if you're mature enough to have sex, you should both be mature enough to deal with the medical responsibility of it. She should be seeing a gynecologist regularly because she is sexually active (not necessarily because of the UTI). Now that she has caught something, she should schedule her first appointment and make sure it's definitely a UTI and not something more serious. It could just be a UTI, or latex allergy, or something bigger. Because you have had sex with her, you should also be tested to be safe. Even though this was her first time having vaginal sex, she may have had oral or anal sex before which can also pass along STDs. Make sure you both get tested to be safe. You only get one body, don't ruin it because you're too scared to take care of it.

Answer 3

Even though you think you are safe, bactieria can travel and cause a UTI. They are not always caused by sex, either. She should go pee right after sex. That can help avoid UTIs.

A gyno cannot give out any information about a patient. It is against the law. Her parents will never find out that she isn't a virgin unless she was to tell them. Anyone having sex should be seen by a doctor. Whether there is a problem or not.

Sex should be avoided until you can be responsible about it. And if she does have an infection she needs to be seen anyways. The infection could become worse if she doesn't.

Answer 4

She does not need her parents consent to see a gynecologist if this is related to a possible STD nearly anywhere. Also, even seeing her regular doctor should not reveal any information she wants kept private. Have her call the office in advance.

Women who are virgins get UTI's and this doesn't in itself mean she's having sex, although it's not uncommon in the newly sexually active. Intercourse can "milk" bacteria from the skin around the urethra inside and cause an infection. (It doesn't mean you "gave her something" since the bacteria often come from a woman's own rectum.) UNfortunately, sometimes condoms exacerbate the problem of UTI's but don't just give up that protection.

The best way to avoid this is to drink plenty of water and to always empty your bladders, both of you, before and after having sex. It's great that you are concerned since untreated this infection could spread to her kidneys or elsewhere.

It would be best of she (and you) could be honest about sexual activity. Most halfway decent parents are more concerned about their daughters being healthy than a lttle bit of tissue. And you both need to consider additional birth control than just condoms.

Answer 5

This is appalling! Every girl has the right for proper medical care. Your girlfriend should absolutely see a gynocologist. And her parents should get some education and develop some understanding and compassion. I hope that these people will understand that their daughter's health is the highest priority.
As far a the UTI is concerned: Yes, she can get an infection, even if condoms and proper hygiene are used. The infection can return and it often does if it is not properly treated. As a first aid your girlfriend should drink plenty of warm herbal teas and use cranberry pills. And then schedule an appointment.

Answer 6

This happened to me when I first became sexually active. Rest assured it's nothing horrible or dirty that you've done. It's quite easy to treat a UTI, especially if you treat it early. Go to the chemist or a health food shop and get some Cranberry supplements and a potent Probiotic.
There is an acid in cranberries that prevents bacteria from sticking to the bladder wall, and probiotics will help fight the infection. Take pretty big doses of each, and drink lots of water each day, until the infection goes away, and then just take one cranberry and one probiotic pill daily as a maintenance protocol.
I had chronic recurring infections for four years before I discovered this treatment method.

Answer 7

I'm responding to your additional information. First of all, let me thank you for being a gentleman and being concerned for your girlfriend and how to protect her. You're kind and sweet and every woman needs to be treated so well.

As far as risks, there are always risks where sex is involved; even if you use protection. There are various sexually transmitted diseases. Some are treatable (clamydia, gonorrea, trich) and others that are not (HIV, herpes, hepatitis). If either one of you has had sexual partners in the past, I suggest you get tested. You could go to your local Family Planning or Planned Parenthood. Depending on your age, they might have to contact your parents. Pregnancy is also a risk. The best way to protect yourself from all of the above is to use a fresh condom every time you have sex. Before you touch each other, put on a fresh condom. Remember that condoms are not 100 percent effective. Talk with your girlfriend and see if you guys are ready for sex or if you should wait.

There are plenty of other things you could do: mutual masterbation, kissing, etc. that limit your chances of getting sick or pregnant. You'll also get to know each others likes and dislikes in a safer way.

Thank you for being so responsible!

Answer 8

Girls cannot get a UTI from sex. You are a wonderful man for having your gf's health at such a high priority. Lots of guys out there wouldn't care.

The urinary tract and the vagina are two completely different channels in her body. Girls get UTIs from possibly wiping from the rear to the front (getting poop in her urinary tract), peeing in a pool, lake, or ocean, or even taking a bath in a tub that was dirty or in water that was dirty or using a bath additive like bubbles. It's a coincidence that she got it at the same time you guys had sex, and she needs to see a doctor for it. It doesn't even have to be a gyno. It can be her regular doctor. UTIs are very painful and left untreated can spread into her kidneys. Thank you for asking.

Answer 9

Well my 1st time. . . . i got a UTI and I'm not sure why but when they're sexually active some girls are more prone to them, or it could be she doesn't drink enough water. And it doesn't necessarily mean that either one of you are unclean in anyway. . . . I went to my campuses infirmary and the nurse just said to drink Cranberry juice and TONS of water! I know this is graphic but if it burns when she urinate the more water she drinks the better. and if she doesn't like straight cranberry juice cran-grape is cool. Oh and by the way she is lucky to have you because most guys would nt react as concerned for HER health!

Answer 10

Don't have sex with her until she finds out from a doctor what the problem is. It could possible be an infection or STD and yes you are in danger of catching it.

Answer 11

UTI'S are not contagious but bacteria in the area can be pushed further in during sex.. No, you are not at risk.. but have her take care of herself and try to give her a break while she takes care of it.

http://www.hmc.psu.edu/healthinfo/uz/uti.htm