Tell me your opinion?

Question

what do you think about a person who you see walking down the street who can't make eye contact, walks with a bad posture, and looks nervous? would you find the person looking unattractive, ugly?i'm talking about me. i have social anxiety and go through this most of the time because i'm uncomfortable in my own skin around my others and people always say negative stuff about me that makes me feel down. I feel like if i can be myself than people might actually find me pretty because some people that i am comfortable around tell that i am pretty.

Answer 1

I would think you have lack of self confidence! I once seen a chubby girl walk in a self confident sexy manner, and i thought that it was attractive, despite her being chubb.She was cute but, it wasnt her body It was her self confidence that made her attractive as a whole!

Answer 2

Hmmm...that's hard. I think we've all had moments where we are insecure...we wouldn't be human if not. I have a ton of insecurities, and I find there are times where it shows, either through body language and lack of eye contact. Unfortunately, there is no way to "turn it off", we all get to a point where we slowly come out of our shell. Try small changes each day....baby steps....one day while your walking try holding your head up, until you feel comfortable. And once you've gotten passed that stage you'll slowly begin trying new things, and you'll realize there was nothing to it. Your walking around thinking everyone is thinking "what is up with this girl?" when maybe they're thinking "who is this beautiful girl"...it all comes down to how you interpret people and what they are thinking....some may say that it is only a reflection of what you think as YOU walk down the street, watching people....who knows really?
Your probably a great person, soooo let others find out for themselves :)

Answer 3

my 1st impression is he has social problem,and has a kind of phobia in meeting and talking to people.but to think that he might be ugly is the last thing that will come in my mind.I'll feel pity and sorry looking at him,and I'd like to get to know this person because he really need help. i know he's always under depression.for the ask er,if there are some people who said that you are pretty then why don't you just be yourself?you must be confident with yourself,and don't care about about what people say.just listen to those who are nice an trustworthy.if we behave good ..people will love us,if we act bad ..they hate us.you just be the best.remember Christina Aguilera's song"i am beautiful no matter what they say....and words can't bring me down..."

Answer 4

I do not think of those people at all. There are heaps of them. Fix the posture for your own future back health! I don't think you have to make eye contact walking down the street, but it is impolite to not look at a person speaking to you. just practice for short times like when being served at a shop and work your way up to more time. These situations are easier to practice in because they do not personally know you.

Answer 5

There is a theory that says something about how if you are one way and you do the opposite then you become the thing you want to be. For example, if you think that you are nervous, act like you are not nervous and then you become a person who isn't nervous. The first time I heard about this, on Loveline, I was like "Wow! That's so simple" so I tried it and now I no longer am agoraphobic (fear of leaving home). Just do things that a person who isn't nervous would do and eventually you will not be nervous anymore. Good luck!

Answer 6

You must have had a very bad life experience to feel the way you do, a good Psychiatrist or Psychologist could help you. A Psychiatrist would probably be better, there is medication available for your condition. I would think of a person hunched over and eyes to the ground, that they must hurt terribly, I would not think badly of a person like this. You will be surprised how many people are so involved in their own activities they would not even notice.

Answer 7

This is the third time you asked this question in the past two days.

Yes, yes, yes, people find confidence, good posture and good self-esteem attractive. If you act positively, people will respond to you positively. If you act negatively, people will keep away.

Answer 8

well i to have had that and still battle it . this way sound crazy but when i feel like that pretand you are in amovie and are someone else that has those skills you want. i am sure you are very cute and maybe if you did things like a cute new hair color can really make you feel better . stand up and be proud of how you really are
there is some medicane you can take for this liek paxil ask your dr good luck

Answer 9

First you need to realize that not everyone is looking at you. If you approached me and made no eye contact and looked nervous I'd think you had just broken the law and were feeling rather guilty. You need to get over yourself.

People will see you the way you present yourself. If you want them to think you're not nuts, you need to lift your head, straighten those shoulders and learn to smile at people.

Answer 10

Well, it depends on the sex of the person. Usually females who behave this way are generally perceived by society as being "shy," "introverted," or "worried" whereas men with this same condition are frequently falsely labeled "anti-social" or "rude." It's the double standard that men have had to live with in modern society.