Just cheer her up? If so, how, if we meet mostly online?
Please, I'd like to help her the most I can, so give the most meaningful answers you can :)
Thanks in advance :) :*
2006-12-10 14:29:38 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Be there for her if and when she needs someone to talk to, or a shoulder to cry on. Also, go out and do things that she likes.
2006-12-10 14:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by Kristy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would recommend Alanon or Alateen. if you cant get to a meeting, then at least grab some literature for your friend to read. one thing i learned in Alanon is the slogan, This Too Shall Pass... and i tell myself that alot. and it does, yesteryear's cares and crisis are gone and life has moved on to new adventures and turmoils.
alanon is...
a support and discussion group for the relatives of people suffering from alcoholism, usually operated in conjunction with Alcoholics Anonymous.
however, alcohol doesnt have to be the reason a person goes, any crisis, or mental disorders in the family may cause a person to need a support group. it is ok to learn to care for yourself and not try to 'fix' everyone else. i have found that the more i 'fix' myself and grow spiritually, the more the problems of others become just that, theirs. and what i have discovered is that most parents, or significant others have the ability to take care of themselves if i step out of the way and let them. while i am at the group, i find ppl who face the same problems as me and we can then support each other.
wishing you all the best,
lily
2006-12-10 22:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by lily 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be there for her. If you meet online make sure you don't say anything that will freak her out, but listen to what she has to say, don't judge, etc. Just be a good friend. If you are worried about her (as in suicidal behavior) then you need to let someone know. I don't know if you guys actually know each other in real life or go to school together or anything but someone needs to know. If her parents argue they might not notice if she is depressed. You can call hopeline http://www.hopeline.com for her or try to get her to call. Don't nag her about it, just be gentle. She comes to her friends like you to get away from arguments so starting one won't help anything. Just be there and listen. Good luck to both of you.
2006-12-10 22:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by starr_wix_wickens_aka.starreyes 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She must have many things to talk about. Listening close to her problems with the situation and being most honest person would be the best choice. Unless you can resolve the conflict, only thing you can do is to just be supportive and listen and be honest.
2006-12-11 04:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by wat~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a friend, Just be a friend, don't bring up the subject of her parents, let her if she wants to talk you listen ,I know you want to help ,but sometimes it is best to let the pros ,handle the big stuff , Keep her spirit up, tell her some good jokes ,send her alot of Ecards,and let her know that she is NEVER ALONE,that you will always be here for her.......ALWAYS
2006-12-10 22:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by shelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would remind her that she won't be living with her parents w/in a few years. That thought comforted me a lot when I was in the same situation as a kid. I would fantasize about the kind of life I would have then...
2006-12-10 22:35:59 · answer #6 · answered by Nels 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
listen to her and her problems...you are helping by just being there...even if it is just on the chat line....my parents did too...it meant a lot to have that one good friend...knowing that whenever i need her...she would be right there waiting...
2006-12-10 22:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by serenityschaos 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋