For Christmas, my parents' friend will be coming to celebrate with us. We are not on good terms as we've had fights in the past. I remember she made me so mad that I cried. As she will be unwrapping presents with us, should I give her one? I feel like I really don't want to but what if she gives me one?
2006-12-10 14:21:36 · 45 answers · asked by Carrie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Even though you're not on good terms with this friend of your parents, this person has been invited to your house by your parents for Christmas. Despite the fact that she made you so mad that you cried, Christmas time is a good time to put bad things behind and celebrate the joy of life. As to the present: yes, you should get her one, simply because it's the right thing to do and you know it is. Good luck and Merry Christmas with all the best of the Christmas spirit for you all.
2006-12-10 14:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give her at least a small present. If you guys had problems in the past then it will surprise your parents friend.
And by doing that, you might gain respect from this person.
You don't half to like her, but remember it is your parents friend. If not for her, then do it for your parents. Be the better person, if she doesn't give you anything let that be her problem.
Good luck! I wish you the best for you on Christmas:)
And if you need any ideas for presents for this friend, feel free to email me!
2006-12-10 14:29:13 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this might be a good time to make amends with this person. Maybe you could talk to this person privately and let him/her know you have forgiven them and ask forgiveness for anything you might have done as well. Then give them the gift card another poster mentioned. OR...
Tell your parents how uncomfortable this makes you with this person being at the family home on Christmas and ask them to uninvite this person due to the conflicts between the two of you in the past.
Good luck, your situation sucks.
2006-12-10 14:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by The OTHER Boelyn Chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have some "bad" suggestions to you.... Regardless she bought you a gift or not, you shd give a gift... I know you doesn't really have good preference towards this person. So what you can do is to get her/him someting that will make the person embarass or you could get the person someting which you do not want from your store room. That's will do the trick.. hehe... but i must warn you, this could only be done if you really hate this person and think that you won't be in good terms with them ever again. Good luck!!
2006-12-10 14:43:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ryeo-won 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have had fights in the past. I have had fights with my father since I was 21/2 ; we still make each other nuts. His nickname for me is "water works" and he enjoys making me cry. I cry out of frustration that I can not get him to stop doing this.
If you are not willing to give her a gift or trying to find a way to spite your Mom then you should not be having her over in the first place.
If you have invited her complete the gesture and treat her pleasantly and do not try to hurt her feelings. If she picks on you let it go. Do not fight with her in front of others trying to celebrate Call her after New Years to have it out. Trust me you will be prouder of yourself. You never know she might be looking for a way to bury the hatchet.
2006-12-10 14:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by CAE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a present just so that you'll come out as the bigger person if she doesn't give you one. The present can be anything from a McDonald's toy or a $2 giftcard to some ice-cream place.. just don't get her anything TOO nice, you know? Good Luck!
2006-12-10 14:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by kylie! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to Forgive and Forget. This will make your life much more happier and will allow you to set an example for the rest of your family. As for getting her a present, you will have to ask yourself that question once you determine the fate of your relationship with her.
Hope you have a Merry Christmas.
2006-12-10 14:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you spoken to your parents? It might be helpful to discuss how you feel with them. They might not be able to uninvite your friend out of politeness, or they are unaware of how you feel.
If you have to have her over, be polite as possible. If you know what she likes, get it for her. If your parents know or have suggestions or have already bought the gift, just relax and sign your name on the card. ;)
It's only for one night. For a few hours. I hate spending time with people I don't get along with, but what can you do? It is Christmas.
Good luck!
2006-12-10 14:25:27 · answer #8 · answered by Bookworm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can ignore that person dont let that person get the best of u i know how u feel will have an extra one if she get u one then take it out if not u have a gift for nextyear one less gift to buy id tell that person off and shut that person up works for me at time drink have fun dont let that person ruin it or give that person the benifit or get her one even if she doesnt atleast that person will look foolish but then why waste time and money and energy getting a gift for someone like that
2006-12-11 03:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by dvcgurl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her something small. The fact that you're even considering it speaks volumes. If you get her something, you're effectively saying "let the past be the past" and if she reciprocrocates you won't be on bad terms anymore but if she doesn't you'll have taken the high road and can feel confident that you did the right thing.
2006-12-10 14:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by S.G. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋