We were married 20+ years. I have dated others but can't seem to make a connection. Am I just wanting what is familiar because I am afraid to move on?
2006-12-10 14:14:17 · 15 answers · asked by ram 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think the more important question here is.. does he want you back? If he's willing to take you back and try again .. and only if you think you can be faithful this time.. then I say go for it. Otherwise let it go and move on. Don't do him wrong again. Good Luck!
2006-12-10 14:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by sallylip2000_ca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many factors at work here. First, there's your history of marraige. 20 years is a long time to be with someone. Then there's the cheating. That alone is something that some people just can't overcome.
You are probably just wanting something familiar, particularly if you haven't had meaningful relationships since your breakup.
It would be more helpful if we knew how your ex felt about you, if you know.
Good luck.
2006-12-10 14:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason why you want him back is because you messed up..did he leave you after finding out that you cheated? if so, the reason you cant move on is because he ended it..so its like unfinished business to you. it wouldve been different if you ended it. no one likes to be dumped...if you ended it then you probably cant move on because you thought the grass was greener in someones elses yard. it never dawned on you that when it gets cold and gloomy that the grass would die over there too. now you are wishing you never gave up what you had because now you realize that when you thought you were bored with him you now see that you were comfortable with him. you ask if you should reconcile with him..is that an option for you? will he take you back?if so...have you grown and matured any? or are you the same selfish childish person that broke your marriage vows? if you havent changed any then leave the man alone. if you have...then give it another go
2006-12-10 14:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by huneygrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 years is a long time to decide u want your ex back. have u spoken to him, could be that he has moved on, and remarried or has someone. but if not if u love him, and intend to be faithful, than let him know how u feel about him. sometimes we realiaze too late what we had. think u just haven't found anyone yet, and want to go back where it's safe, can't blame u for that, wanting to go back where u were loved and treated well. go for it, and hopefully he will feel the same as u do.
2006-12-10 14:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me help you Shorty. Both of you sit down and discuss your commitment to one another. Express any concerns you may have going forward and once all your concerns have been discussed, decide to rededicate yourselves to an exclusive relationship and make a vow to let everything that's happened in the past remain in the past. If you can do this and be sincere in your commitment you can move on into a healthy relationship.
2016-05-23 03:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty ironic that your 20 min roll in the hay cost you a 20 year marrage I think its good enough for you... thats what you get for placing so little value on a trusting relationship..
All you other women out there.. Learn form this cheaters mistakes.. It aint always greener on the other side of the Fence
2006-12-10 14:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by Shawn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think there is a chance, I would say YES, Especially if there are children involved and you are truly ready to humble yourself to her and she is ready to forgive you. My husband cheated on me in the beginning of our marriage and I fought tooth and nail to save it even going to his commanding officer for help.Today he is retired from the military,having served in WW11 down through Viet Nam. We have been married 54 yrs.and have 5 grown children.We are Born again Christians and life couldn't be sweeter.
Good Luck to you both !! Merry Christmas & Happy New Year
2006-12-10 14:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Serve you right for being cheated your husband! I wish your ex could found someone who is faithful and devoted wife in future. Shame on you being flirt with other man when you are a married woman!
2006-12-10 14:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um....I think if anyone's trying to move on, it's him. Your pain is simply the result of your actions. You sound like the ball's in your court on this one, but he's the one who has to decide whether or not to give YOU another chance.
2006-12-10 14:20:52 · answer #9 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it is ever too late to try to reconcile. it wouldn't hurt to try. Just make sure you're not doing that out of guilt- you don't want to hurt him again.
2006-12-10 14:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋