my in laws have a pretty big dog and every time i go over there i can't breath so i only stay for like an hour or so.. mind you i am so allergic to cats and dogs and i also have asthma... when i leave their home its like i have a death of a cold and i'm up for atleast two nights wheezing and not being able to breath. my QUESTION is: how can i ask them to put the dog in another room nicely? they did it once for me but that lasted for like 15 minutes.. i would think out of respect for me since i am allergic and have asthma they would put the dog away until i lest the home. i dont go over there much at all because of this. but christmas is coming soon and my husband wants us to go there. i am geeting nervious about going because i know its going to be so bad for me.. its scarey not being about to breathe.. what should i do not go?
2006-12-10 13:59:29 · 7 answers · asked by sue s 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
i did ask my husband to ask them but he says he feels funny asking them because its their house. it stinks too because i would like to be there longer than a half hour..
2006-12-10 14:43:45 · update #1
Tell them what your problem start by saying I don't mean this disrespectufuly . . .and then say what you haev to say and tell them at the end. i hope you understand. They should agree because people should be nice and constierate of others. Good Luck and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-11 08:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they can't get the hint, then try wearing a mask that fit over your nose. It should help and maybe they will get the hint that you can't breath in the house without it. Husband should also ask them very nicely if they could put the dog in the other room or you can't stay very long, because it does effect you bad. And last but not least get a note from your Dr. tell them how bad it is effecting you. If they ask why the mask, just tell them that you want to visit with them longer and that is the only way to visit them without getting out of breath. Then if that doesn't work, just tell your husband to tell them , that you wish them a Merry Christmas, but that you just can't come. If it comes to your health, then they should understand.
2006-12-11 11:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by frostyw47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would write them a little note and tell them how you feel since your husband doesn't care how he inconveniences you with the wheezing. if you can't breathe nothing else matters...write them a letter and tell them the main reason for the letter is letting them know how much longer you want to stay and spend time but you cannot. in addition to your normal meds, what about taking some benadryl before going there??? i'd also like to point out that the dog does live there, so his dander is still going to be there. here's an even better suggestion, why not invite everyone to YOUR house. no dog, no dander, let them leave when they want.
don't just not go without explaining yourself first, you will hurt feelings and make everyone upset.
2006-12-12 07:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm... seems a pretty simple problem to me
Dog in house vs. Sick and Wheezing wife.
Your husband doesn't have to make a big choice.. Call his folks and stay longer with them or have a brief visit and a sick wife.
My kids have cats and I know exactly what you mean. One Xmas I spent more time on the back patio then I did inside (why do cats always go to the person with alergies? Maybe I should ask that on Yahoo?).
Anyway.. dont ask.. gently tell our husband to do it.
good luck
2006-12-11 03:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by ca_surveyor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask your husband to confront his parents about this. They obviously don't see the seriousness of the matter. It's quite an insult to you for them to put the dogs first. Perhaps if the paramedics pick you up, then they will get the message.
2006-12-10 22:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by Unshaken Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would ask my husband to please get his parents to put the dog up for a couple of hours. if not, i would not go. it is not worth risking your health. if they are concerned and caring parents, they will agree. aren't you more important? we have home health nurses coming to our house almost every day, some of them just don't like cats (we have 5 inside) but we have enough courtesy to put them in another room while they're here. these are your in-laws, they should care more for you!
2006-12-10 22:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by GoAskAlice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont go there...they will get the message...i have the same problem..
2006-12-12 06:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋