have you ever misjudged someone based on first impression or looks alone and had been wrong in a good way? (i.e. you thought someone was a jerk and it turned out they are a really nice person?) please share your experience, (research for a project) thanks!
2006-12-10 13:48:17 · 12 answers · asked by ATN 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
please share positive experiences
2006-12-10 14:29:48 · update #1
all the time
2006-12-10 13:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny story. When I first met my husband I thought he was an insufferable teacher's pet (back in 7th grade) and now we've been married for 4 years and dated for 2 1/2 years before that! I also misjudged a girl who turned out to be my maid of honor, and I thought the guy who turned out to be our best man was completely weird too. Guess I was a real bad judge of character! It still happens sometimes today : ( I still make snap judgements that I later regret. You really shouldn't judge a person before you get to know them. Sometimes you are really surprised!!
2006-12-10 13:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My brother's girlfriend always seemed a bit of an airhead, with nothing worthwhile to say whenever I saw her at any of the family get-togethers. Then one night we got together in a smaller group... just five or six people. Turns out she's remarkably intelligent and quite the conversationalist when she isn't feeling overwhelmed by a large mixed group of people. I'm glad I had the chance to get to see her positive attributes. And I'm glad I was never so hasty as to be mean or offensive to her based on my first impression.
2006-12-10 13:53:22 · answer #3 · answered by sueflower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have misjudged people in the past, but I usually tend to look at people in a favourable light, so for me I usually have judged someone to be a good person, & later found out he/she was a jerk.
Experience:
I was feeling good about a new job I had been promoted into. Went to a meeting with a client accompanied by an associate. The meeting was at the end of the day & when it was over my co-worker invited me to join him for an after work drink. We talked, & talked & he started to share his negative experiences with our boss. So I opened up to him & shared my evaluation of our boss with him, intending to offer him my support.
The very next day, I met alone with my boss, & he proceeded to repeat verbatim what I had said about him in private to the co-worker the previous evening.
I trusted that co-worker & thought he was a decent fellow, but he had identified my weakness of being symathetic, & used that to stab me in the back. What a jerk!
2006-12-10 14:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone has, I've met people that I thought were going to be really nice but turn out to be mean people. Once I knew this girl name Tanisha and she had a very hard exterior so I automatically assume that she was going to have a bad attitude or be unapproachable. Once we got the chance to talk to her, she was really nice and smiled a lot, she said that she was just doesn't initially trust people and that was her way of protecting herself.
2006-12-10 13:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, many times. But unfortunately it mostly was the other way around. People who made a good impression on me later turned out to be of bad character.
2006-12-10 13:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was not a loser in highschool but i certainly was not popular. I was really quite and I thought ALL the popular kids were A holes, especially the jock guys. Like 4 of them became my friend throughout the year and not to just get answers from me lol. They just started talking to me and saying hi to me in the hallways and everything. I thought they were the typical jerk jocks but I was totally wrong!
2006-12-10 14:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by incubabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea, numerous of times, but I don't remember who they were since it been a long time I have misjudged someone, and I apologized to them about it. Eventhough, I get misjudged a lot too and they won't amit to it or apologize me for it.
2006-12-10 13:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once misjudged a girl. She was a Muslim, and wore a head covering. She was always very timid, and people sometimes gave here a hard time for her religion. I instantly felt protective of her and we became friends. Then she started being friends with another girl, one who disliked me. I played it cool and decided I was noing going to force my friend to choose between us. I could co-exist with her friend without being too chummy. Then one day I asked my friend to watch my picture for me while I went off to do something. The girl who didn't like me and another girl took the picture away while I was gone, and when I returned I asked what was the meaning of this. My "friend" simply ignored me, and I had to fight with the other girl to get my picture back. The girl I wanted to protect from bullies let me get bullied, and I felt very hurt.
2006-12-10 14:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by roxusan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Totally, give people a chance, you'll be surprised what you find
2006-12-10 13:49:47 · answer #10 · answered by Not a hippie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋