My husband and I were having a loud fight today and I told him to leave me alone I needed to cool off. He wouldn't listen and kept following me harping on the same issues. I was cleaning up the bathroom and threw the towels at him and shut the door yelling at him to leave me along. Was the abusive? I was more angry than I should have been given the issue we were fighting over and i was angry when I threw the towels at him. I just felt like I was at my limit and he wouldn't let me get some air. Help
2006-12-10 13:42:29 · 16 answers · asked by daisy 77 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hahaha, towels...when i saw the question i thought maybe pottery or soemthing, and no it isn't abuse and don't worry about it. Its way better that the woman is throwing things rather than the man. He seems hella annoying to follow you when you're mad and telling him to go away though...
2006-12-10 13:45:56 · answer #1 · answered by adklsjfklsdj 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that throwing things was the best thing you could have done. If you wanted air and he was harping on you..then you should have went for a walk and then came home when things cooled down. Yes it was only towels but that is how it starts. Next time you might have a hair brush or a pen...throwing things is throwing things. Next time leave the house and come back when you are calm and collected.
2006-12-10 21:49:21 · answer #2 · answered by Tinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't abusive, but it probably wasn't wise. And what do you expect? We aren't thinking in the heat of the moment.
The ones we love can drives us to the edge faster than anyone. If you are in that situation again, get up and leave. If that isn't possible, stop talking for ten seconds, take a deep breath, and respond to him in a calm voice. Say very simply, "I need time to cool off. Can you please give me that time?" If he doesn't, ask him again.
Also, you may both want to consider having someone be a third party to your arguments so that you can learn to be fair arguers. It's hard to tell if we are being fair or not because we aren't objective about it. Consider an anger management counselor or even just a friend.
2006-12-10 21:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no this is not abuse. He should have left you alone when you walked away from him. Some men dont like to leave thing undone. I can see this to a certain point. But when a person is anger to the point of seeing red then they need to back off till things cool off. But throwing a towel is not abuse. he was lucky it wasnt a brick or the tv.
2006-12-10 21:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by valerie s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you just hit your breaking point. Everybody has one, and that does not mean you are abusive. To the contrary, it is more abusive for someone to continue to push your buttons when they can clearly see that you have had enough. I would sit down together to discuss what happened, and what can be done differently in the future to prevent it from happening again. Maybe you guys can agree on a signal in which you take a break from the agrument and return much calmer to resolve what ever the issue at hand is.
2006-12-10 21:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by blankie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry, threwing things is good 4 soul and mind, you should try whit glass, or china, but not to hurt others, maybe a floor, but if the fight go on next time tell him stop let fight, hit him in the sholder, and smile, ho knows, or thel him you are so boring that i must show you some thing, go to the badroom, take to pillows and tell him, do to this pillow whot you wish to do to me, and you do the same! You two gona scream, hit, but at the and you gona smile so hard then only the sex wiil be the cherry at the top!
2006-12-10 21:56:46 · answer #6 · answered by Emsy O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You needed to vent some frustration, nothing wrong in that. It was towels. What's he going to do? Dry himself into hospital?
You need to talk about issues; once you start throwing things that's not a good sign.
2006-12-10 21:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by Wonderpants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need help honey ...... I do when i am upset i throough actual punches ......... some time men make you do that next time just leave do go in the bathroom your still in the same house leave go for a walk or something out of the house dont he know when to shut up .... ps im not suggesting that you hit your husband
2006-12-10 21:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by slpry L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
throwing things is part of domestic violence.
it can lead to physical abuse and emotional abuse.
if you have reached your limit by throwing things then you need to get help for both of you.
there is something much more deeper going on here than your saying or you would not be asking for help here.
if you need to talk to someone call your local womens shelter
were your from.
2006-12-10 22:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by snoopy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Towels are pretty harmless...the yelling is more abusive than towel throwing...as well as completely non-constructive.
2006-12-10 21:44:33 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋