i loved being pregnant with my now 1 month old daughter kylie elizabeth and i miss having the miracle of life growing inside of me. i want another baby really badly but i don't know if i should. i have a 4.0 grade point average and i am going to start college next august anfter i graduate in june. i have no problem with completeing my school work. is it wrong that my biological clock is still ticking and what do you think i should do? should i go with my instinct and have another baby with my boyfriend who is also kylie's father or should i fight it off? i don't want to wait and i don't know why this is overwhelming me soo much. some one help!
2006-12-10 13:36:10 · 9 answers · asked by dnea63 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I think you should fight it off and this is why. Right now, you have your daughter (congratuations, by the way). Instead of focusing on what you miss and don't have anymore (being pregnant), why not try to focus on all of the new stuff that is going to be happening with your daughter (the learning to walk, talk, etc.)? You are seventeen and you already have a full plate by anyone's standards with trying to graduate, go to college, and support and raise a child. Right now, your focus should be on enjoying this time with your daughter and making it so that you can successfully support yourself, her, and anyone else that might come along in the future. The thing is, you are only seventeen. There is a lot to life and a lot to be said for having the freedom to experience as much of it as you can while you are young. You wanted the experience of being a mother, and now you have a daughter. But what is the rush? Carrying your second child will be just as fun in several years when you are graduated from college. Give yourself a chance to be young and to enjoy your daughter before adding another child to the mix.
Also, this is just a side observation and I could be totally wrong. Part of me thinks that maybe you look back on being pregnant and remember how happy you were, and maybe right now you are not as happy as you were then or as happy as you thought you would be now that your daughter is born. Part of the problem might be post-partum depression where you feel like you were happier then and you think being pregnant will somehow take you back to a time when you were feeling better. Maybe I am wrong, but if that is true, then I would talk to your doctor, there are things that you can do that can make you feel better.
I would really take this time to focus on myself, getting my life in order, and my daughter. You have plenty of time, don't be in such a hurry to have everything at once. Just remember to stop and breathe, there is plenty of time.
2006-12-10 13:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by Whiskey Tango Foxtrot 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not much older than you I have been pregnant before although I miscarried I do know what an awesome feeling it is to be pregnant. I also had a hand in raising my brother and sister and also my two beautiful nieces. My sister loved being pregnant and she got pregnant for the second time about a year after the first. I would suggest taking some time to bond with your little girl and make sure you are positive that you can handle it and that you can afford it!
Obviously if you are doing that well in school and are going to college you've got a good head on your shoulders, take a step back, look at the situation, you're not just thinking about yourself anymore you've got a child to raise. Don't get pregnant just because it's an awesome feeling you do have to deal with the end product which is a baby! Ultimately it is your decision hopefully you'll choose what's best for you and the BABY most importantly, I would definately say wait...good luck in your decisions and in college! oh yea and congratulations on the little girl!!!
2006-12-10 16:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by whitney h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from my past experience....I had my son when I was 17. I was a junior in high school. It wasn't bad at first, my son slept all the time, so it was easy to get my school work done. As my son got older, it got harder and harder to do school work, work a full time job (so I could support my son) and be a full time mom. I did finish high school, but it was definetly the hardest thing I have ever done. I don't think I could have did college as well. I would try holding off having another baby until you start college and see if you think you can handle college, your daughter and another baby. What does you boyfriend think? Good luck.
2006-12-10 13:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by confused angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the baby gets a little older things will get a bit harder. get through school, fight that clock. I loved being pregnant too it is an amazing feeling, But its to soon. Finish school and be all that you can be for your daughter now. Give her the extra time. With all your studies and just life issues in general you will not have the extra time to devote to another child with out overly stressing yourself.
2006-12-10 13:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by Issym 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Putting it off is what is best for you (as your body needs some time to recover) and it is what is best for Kylie and her future sybling as both you and your boyfriend will have matured and progressed in life and be more able to take better care of them. Keep up the good work in school and concentrate on the family that you already have for now. You won't regret it. You have plenty of time for more babies. You are very young.
2006-12-10 15:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should devote your time to your daughter, and give her your full attention.
Graduate high school, get married to your boyfriend, and if you still feel like your ready to have another baby, then go ahead and have another baby.
I'm pregnant right now and in college, and believe me college is pretty tough anyways, so I know it will be hard work with a baby. So just keep that in mind. Good luck!
2006-12-10 13:59:51 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.Gaddis 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why could you be asking this? Seriously while could youngster being pregnant be the proper option? Of direction youngster mothers will also be well mothers. But being a youngster mother is on no account superb. It is on no account the high-quality option. So do not be so naive and feature a youngster at the same time you're a youngster. There is simply such a lot of motives you will have to wait and no longer one well rationale that you'll have a youngster quickly.
2016-09-03 08:42:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should want to give your baby the best possible life, financially and emotionally, also if you are going to be busy with school and owrk its going to be hard to find time to give attention to one child, let alone two
2006-12-10 15:17:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hehe. Someone's just jealous because no one will have kids with him... (uscmedguy)
2006-12-14 20:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by Andii 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋