Where are those old fashioned men!?!?

Question

Do you men prefer to keep the old fashioned values and chase after the girl, and court her around before a serious relationship? OR have we all gotten to a day and age where its now become "equal" so everyone seems to be meeting halfway? such as going dutch on dates and meeting in a neutral location?

and i know that women will prefer one or the other in your experience, but what do YOU men prefer??

Answer 1

Honestly, I don't think most men even understand what "old-fashioned" values mean. An entire generation of us were demasculated by society to the point that men today don't even understand what being a man is, and the women notice it.

Yes, it's an old canard, but I'm going to pull it out again; the feminist movement gave women what they said they wanted to see in a man, and when they got it, they realized that the men they helped shape couldn't make decisions, were over cautious so as not to "offend" women, and lost any sense of daring and adventure that women actually crave for their men to offer. When in reality, men and women were created to be in relationship with each other, just like they are.

Your question suggests that "old-fashioned" men are sorely missed; amen to that.

Answer 2

A very interesting question. I for one am a very old fashion kind of guy. I will always offer to hold a door for a lady, or give up my seat to a lady on the subway. When I invite a lady to dinner, I will pick up the check without even thinking about it. This goes back to the way I was brought up, and it show respect for the lady, and is a basic courtesy that should be followed by more people Now on the other hand, I will graciously accept a door hold or a dinner invite from a lady. A feel very flattered that she thought enough of me to show me that courtesy, and it would be rude to not accept it with a thank you. To me any relationship should be based on consideration and reverence for the other person, no matter whether it’s a long term relationship or a casual meeting on the street. This would be a much better world if everyone would treat each other in this manner.

Answer 3

I have one of those old fashioned guys and I love him to death!

We began a friendship for a few weeks before we started dating and even then moved really slow. (Granted, we met in High School, but he's always been a gentlemen)

To this day he still opens doors, helps me with my coat, will pull my chair out, etc. For the first year and a half that we dated he refused to let me pay for anything until I insisted that we started paying half and half. We've been together for almost four years now and I'm so glad that we found each other! (we were set up, so to speak)

I think some women say they want an old fashioned gentleman, but then when they do get one they get a little 'weirded out' because they're not used to that treatment and then think the guy is doing it to get something else...

Answer 4

Going dutch on the first date is a good ice breaker for some guys but if its justa coffee and a snack the guy should pick up the tab.
So many women today though consider it a slap in the face if a guy pays the bill there like I can pay for my own food. I do believe it depends on the lady but really alot of the good guys are here in BC.

Answer 5

I guess I'm still Lucky because the kind and only kind I would date. Call you for a date, Be dressed nice, smell good, and take you out to dinner,open the car door for you. At the Resturant pull your chair out for you and when you leave pull your chair help you with your coat. When you get the car open the door for you and on the first date don't start that hitting on you, show you a nice time. When you get home home, open the car door for you walk you to your door kiss you goodnight and yes mam just look in the right places there are plenty of gentlemen well bred and trained. I'm not talking about sissy men either Boxers, Bankers
ETC.

Answer 6

I met a few old fashioned men that liked to pay for things for me and chase after me because I was a female(the supposed weaker sex) and that's how it was supposed to be. You know what I did? I used them for as long as I could until they started expecting physical contact, then I ditched them for being stupid. Poor little boys, they didn't know how to be men.

I prefer a man who treats me like an equal. If I've got money, I pay. If he's got money, he pays. Whatever. I don't like to be chased after. It's annoying as hell! My one and only serious relationship was infact an accident. We were just having fun as equals and then we fell in love.

Old fashioned men adherring to gender laws? YUCK! My lover feels the same way mind you when I met him he was the most androgenous man I've ever seen. F- western society's gender rules, people are people. Really, abitrary gender rules and 'old fashioned' traditions are not universal. Every culture has different roles for the sexes and some have more than two genders (and I'm not talking about physical sex so don't get any hermaphordite ideas here). There is no way that the 'old fashioned' way of thinking is how it was 'meant' to be unless you're ignorant and just don't know any better.

Answer 7

I prefer the old fashioned way, opening doors, paying for the dates, etc etc.

But, I do like how the women of today are more sexually assertive. Betty crocker during the day, and a slutty wife behind closed doors. It just does not get any better then that.

Answer 8

Well I have been searching for an old fashioned man with values and morals for over two years but have had no luck what so ever. If they are out there they must all be married, but I'll keep looking. Not going to settle for anything less.

Answer 9

the Fox hit it right on, however.

The problem is, unless the lady is insistant on this kind of behavior, the gentelman won't have a chance because she'll be constantly getting offers by other more exciting guys, and the excitement makes up for the lack of courtesy.

The other problem is most got picked out early by women who appreciate them, all that's left is the imposters--and momma's boys.

Some men who are "old-fashoned" are very courteous, considerate and well behaved. Why? Momma taught them. But the problem is you'll be number two until momma dies.

I always felt courtesy and consideration were important, I hold the door, carry the groceries, and ease the burden of live for the woman who's presence in my life makes it more bearable. But, they've always turned their head for some one more exciting.

Nice guys get boring for most women.

What they want is the gentleman who is and exciting, challenging guy. Sorry.....they seldom come in the same package.

Answer 10

In mine and my husband's family the men open doors for the women, pick them up for dates (and do majority driving after getting married). They pay for the dates (though my husband and I did take turns paying for dates because I didn't want to seem like I was using him), walk them to the door to make sure they are inside safely etc. There are good guys still out there. However there are alot of women that act like that's treating them like they are inferior so alot of men don't seem sure what they are expected to do. The women who don't want all that stuff really don't know what they are missing in my opinion.