im 20 going on 21, my life has turned upside down. 1st of all my boyfriend i had lived with and still love had told me he wanst ready for marrige and left me. since then 1 yr ago he still calls or keeps in touch somehow just for a one night stand. i ask him about us then he leaves me alone. he has a girlfiend and thats hard for me to deal with around christmas. also my parents have devoriced in the past year. and i start college in january i cannot focus on anything due to all that is going on with my life can someone help me with my issues or help with a schedule i can get on?
2006-12-10 13:19:41 · 6 answers · asked by cert_pharm_tech21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's humorous that you say he "keeps in touch somehow just for a one night stand". Umm, don't you think the somehow is you answer his calls. You are not over this guy and as long as YOU let him, he will. You have to cut this guy out of your life and begin doing what you should have done a year ago, get over him. As for your parents, I can understand how hard that is on young adults. Be thankful that you are of college age and not twelve or something like that. There really isn't anything you can do except move on from that too. What would you messing up school do for your family? Nothing. We would all have liked to see our parents stay together forever but; sometimes, it's not meant to be, for whatever reason, your parents have theirs. You have to focus on you now. Drop the user, wish both your parents the best in their new lives and focus on your studies, that is all that is important now. You don't get too many chances in life and I would hate to hear you haven't succeeded because of a loser ex and your parents split. You are beginning a new life, take it by the hand and let yourself grow. Everything else will work itself out. Just believe.
P.S. I also find it interesting that you put your boyfriend problem before your family problem. He still has you putting him first. Prioritites?????
2006-12-10 13:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
cert: Have you heard of the saying: "why buy the cow when the milk is free" ? Well; you feel the way you do because your ex wanted sex -not love. Why would you even, allow him to have a one night stand with you for after he axed you ? The guy is a full-time jerk using girls for sex only, pretending that he loves them. You feel the way you do because you failed to do the right and proper thing. Shacking up relationships tend to have the highest failure rate when the couples wed ( IF they ever, do) ! Learn from it and don't do it again ... It hurts more the second time you make the same mistake. I hate it when guys use girls like he did to you. Be glad that you weren't married to the rat and have children. Good luck to you in your college studies - work hard at them and your future will take on an added dimension you won't regret. All the best to you !!!
2006-12-10 13:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I have to tell you that your parent's decision had to have been what was best for them. You can't let thier decision affect you like this. They had thier reasons for this and it doesn't involve you at this point. You are grown and have a life of your own so live it. Love your parents as individuals and don't worry about where they live or who with. As for the "boyfriend", let him go. Apparantly he has decided that you are good enough to sleep with but he has another agenda. He wants his cake and wants to eat it too. Don't give in to him like that. Live your life for you. Decide what you want to do and what makes you happy and do just that. You don't need some jerk dangling this crap in front of you like some sort of bait. If you focus on school and where your life is going to take you then someone good will come along and you will be alot better off. Besides, there are alot of single guys in college and yes, most of them are pigs and will only want one thing but if you keep focused, the right one will come along eventually. Good luck in school and in life!!! Keep your chin up, things will get better. I promise.
2006-12-10 13:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by lilphill1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Right now just worry about yourself. At 21 (or so) you really can't expect your boyfriend to be ready for marriage on the other hand what a loser he must be to hit you up for a one night stand while still having a girlfriend. Please STOP SELLING YOURSELF SHORT!!!!!!! As far as your parents, they are grown and have probably come to an understanding of what is best. Enroll in school and do you. p.s drop the loser.
2006-12-10 14:39:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, break all contact with the bf....he is using you. As far as parents divorcing, you have to go on with your life.
2006-12-10 13:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋