I have this really nice teacher who I've known for over a year now. He happens to be of the opposite sex, and people have teased me about having a crush on him because we get along so well together. I actually have a brother his age, so I don't feel like there's that big "boundary" gap there. I have no feelings for him besides respect and friendship, and nothing inappropriate is going on. We talk, but not about anything that neither of us is uncomfortable with. I don't care what people say, so I don't plan on not talking to this teacher anymore because people pervert things.
He happens to run several of the clubs I am in, however (which is how I got to know him so well), and lets a bunch of people come into his room sometimes for lunch. Since Christmas is coming up, would it be inappropriate if I bought him a present like a book (under 10 dollars)?
Just curious...
Thanks!
2006-12-10 13:08:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
I think it's fine, if it isn't against any rule. You guys seem to be friends, and there's nothing wrong with getting a present for a friend. Don't worry about what people say.
2006-12-10 15:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by person 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gifts from students to teachers are generally a mistake unless it's something for the classroom or class. It's wonderful to make your teacher feel appreciated with a group token or gesture of appreciation, but an individual present can definitely be misunderstood and lead to discomfort on either side. My advice is, go with a group gift and try not to be ostentatious, especially if you've already been singled out by classmates. Other students have a pretty good nose for personal chemistry, and if they are identifying that chemistry between the two of you -- and you ALSO happen to be in SEVERAL of this man's extra-curricular clubs AND classes, then something incorrect is afoot.
You should reassess your feelings and perhaps be more honest with yourself. In the meantime, NO GIFTS!
2006-12-11 03:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I taught at a high school and the rule there was that ANY teacher who accepted a gift from a student would be fired.
You should be careful not to put your teacher into such a spot. Ask other teachers (perhaps teachers who are not your current ones) what the school policy is on gifts to teachers. One thing that was done at our school (with approval from the powers that be) was to accept a very modest gift that could then and there be shared with everyone in the class (say, if a student with prior teacher approval, brought cookies or candy to be passed out during a particular period).
On the other hand, I taught at a Catholic school where gifts to the teachers was encouraged by school officials,administrators, and parents (that Christian "spirit of giving" business). I informed the principal that that practice made me a little uncomfortable (especially in light of the policy at the previous school). She was not at all amused by my scruples.
2006-12-10 21:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by The Invisible Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they give Christmas presents at your school? If he is a teacher a lot of the students like, it might be a better idea if you put your money together for a gift for him... It does not have to be big, but it would be from all of you, and not just you. That way, people will not tease you about it, and he won't take it the wrong way. It is from a bunch of students! He would love feeling so loved by his students!!!
2006-12-10 21:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by Amy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not inappropriate at all as long as your parents are aware that you are doing so. Make sure that your conversations are in a public place and NOT alone with him. You could very easily ruin his career and your reputation. I don't think you want that to happen to either of you. Have a GrEaT HoLiDaY!!
Eds
2006-12-10 21:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by Eds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds pretty familiar to what happened to one of my cousins a while back in high school,her teacher used to be really nice to her and she took it as a compliment,always on time never ditching,homework complete etc...etc.. They had a nice teacher student relation,she even use to stay in his class for lunch and tutoring after school...But as the time passed it escalated and it turned romantic....like big time!!....He started inviting her for lunch and brought her little gifts and crap like that,so she was ok with all of this...i thought it was fishy...so i confronted the teacher and he was like no.no,no....blah,blah,blah....yada.yada.yada....like denying anything he was doing was wrong and innapropriate....i threatened to report his sorry Butt if he continued....so finally my cousin asked me what was i doing,and she was mad for awhile but....long story short....the teacher moved from schools cuz i was gonna snitch,so he left and my cousin is still there finishing her last year.....
2006-12-10 21:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by KastorTroy1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to check with your school and what the rules are for this. True, if it's against the rules the teacher could be fired. Check with the rules and follow them.
2006-12-10 23:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by dexter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. I use to give my favorite teachers a gift. Granted I didnt have a crush on them.
2006-12-10 21:16:30 · answer #8 · answered by Martin Chemnitz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no... if your friends. its OK. the act will show you like what he is doing as a teacher.
now if he makes a more smack him hard and run to the principal
2006-12-10 22:25:47 · answer #9 · answered by blakeshomework 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all you said was true it would be a nice gesture.
2006-12-10 21:17:35 · answer #10 · answered by Funnel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋