He said that it's numerous times with numerous women. I do believe something is going on because of our "married life", ex. no sex, companionship, touch, etc. Should I believe the things is best friend is telling me? He only agreed to tell me these things after I offered him money to tell.
2006-12-10 13:06:35 · 26 answers · asked by roe g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One thing in life is never believe someone else. Find out for yourself. Some seem to have hidden agendas and it is best for you to get to the bottom of this without his friends help. Start by talking with your husband and try to find out why these things are missing in your marriage. Don't take I don't want to talk right now or that you ***** to much. If he is chosing to ignore you then you have the right to find out, but not by friends.
2006-12-10 13:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being your marriage isn't what you wanted I suppose this might be the reason why. If you can keep your act and head together you could really work this to your advantage. You are in the drivers seat now. Thirty years is a long time. I know it will be hard to not feel you have wasted a lot of years. Depending on how independent you are financially will depend on how you proceed from here. One thing is for sure I sure would not compete for his affection with his "numerous women".
At least it isn't like he has cheated with only one, which would indicate he really liked her. Sounds like he needs an "ego boost" every now and then to make him feel like a man. Remember keep your kool, investigate and find out for sure or just assume it is as the paid informer said, and proceed with what ever plan you have.
2006-12-10 21:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was in a situation like this myself. Only thing is I didn't have to pay any money to find out. His friend and I were talking one day as he lived next door to us. He asked me why I was always staying at home alone while he was out having fun. I asked him what he was talking about. He just told me that mine was cheating on me. So I really didn't know whether or not to believe him. So I started doing some checking into his where abouts and low and behold his friend was right. So one day while he was out on yet another "trip", I moved out while he was gone. Yep, he came home to an empty house.
So what I suggest to you, is start watching what and where he goes and all that good stuff. Even ask him questions of his where abouts. The signs are there if you just look for them. If he is cheating on you, well then it will be up to you as to what you do.
2006-12-10 22:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would talk to your husband..I would let him know what his friend has said about him or better yet,,check it out yourself..If you know your husbands information then check it out..He couldnt have been cheating on you for that long and you never suspecting it...May be that his friend just needed money so he used that to get money from ya...Some friend huh??? Just take your time for other things keep relationships from being like they use to be...Life gets in the way...But upon your findings then confront your husband...Cheating is a hard thing to beare but is easy to find out...I once made a fake id and found out where my husband was goin,,then i went there under my new id and found out what he was up to..That is the only way I found out the truth..You may think of doin that...Only when you find the truth will you know what to do...May God help you in this situation
2006-12-10 21:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by glowworm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best friends for 30 years and he sold out your husband (his best friend) over money? I would wonder why he wanted money. If he is lying then he is hurting his best friend, over money. That would be sad.
Despite that, I would talk to your husband.. before that do a little research. Where he goes during the day or weekends. Follow him with your friend. See if there is anything going on. If you find nothing or something. I definatly would tell him, I also would tell him about his best friend telling you and the money.
2006-12-10 22:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to say really, but if I were in your shoes I would straight out ask the husband and find out from him. And in today's world anyone would do something for a buck or more. I know of people who have been married for yrs and there sex life has gone down the drain but that does not mean that the other is cheating on them. I am sorry that I can not give you advice but what I can do is keep you in prayer.
2006-12-10 21:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by ggderner 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off what is this "best friend" motive. I know that there was money involved but it likely wasn't enough to sell out his boy.Definitely don't turn a blind eye to the information but I would suggest you approach the subject carefully.How do you feel? Probably if you were offering money for details you already had suspicions. You know what they say about female intuition. Go from there.
2006-12-10 22:19:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what, if you feel he's cheating so much to where you want to offer money just for a little confirmation...then you should know just from your instinct that he's cheating..and you have to think... what is his friends motive for telling you. i mean, he's your husbands best friend,why would he sell him out? does he have ulterior motives? my gosh...how much money did you offer? did he give you any details? you need details so you can catch him. if you confront your husband from his friend saying yeah he's cheated numerous times..he can and will deny it, it will only effect the friendship..then you will never find anything out from this friend again because your husband will surely cut him off. so try to get some details and dont mention the friends name,this way your information isnt cut off...try to gather as much detail as possible before you take it to him
2006-12-10 22:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by huneygrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would certainly not call this person a best friend !! The fact that he accepted money off you for information about his so called best friends activities is disgusting . There may be problems in your marriage but l certainly would not listen to anything this jerk has to say !! Speak to your husband and sort your problems out with him not some idiot who has the nerve to call himself a friend !! He is certainly not a friend and l wouldn't take any notice of anything that came out of his mouth. He sounds like a moron to me. Talk to your husband and Good luck
2006-12-10 21:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men theyre so stupid!!!i dunno about his friend. if u had to pay him maybe he was just saying it for the money. but then again it sounds like you were desperate for info because things werent going so well.whatever you do dont ask your hubby. because then all that will do is start a fight. you should investigate for your self. does he do things out of the ordinary? like does he work late...alot?? and then take a shower RIGHT when he gets home? if he does things that he never does then i would say yea hes cheating on you. no body should have to go thru that. especially after 30 years of marriage. go to marriage counseling , if he'll do it. good luck and best wishes girl.
2006-12-10 21:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by jrs wife! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋