I introduced them this summer and now they're going out. They are full-on like all in love and stuff... and now one of them is trying to tell my how to treat the other one. I have been friends with her for a year more than he has.. and he just met her 2 months ago. He got all mad at me the other night because I said something to her he didn't approve of. What do I do to stop this?
2006-12-10 13:02:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hey he is just looking out for his girl who he cares a lot about. Maybe try to look at the situation from his stand point and you will understand better.
2006-12-10 13:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it but you are screwed! Unless these two are very mature people (far and few between) brace yourself for a lot of drama. You need to find a very fine balance of remaining a good friend and pulling back far enough you don't get sucked into any forecoming fights.
I'd sit down with them both (not together) and explain that why you are glad they've found each other you are concerned about being so close with both of them. Try to set ground rules so you know what's expected. Explain to your friend that you don't want to upset him, but you can't stop treating her like a friend.
Also make sure you give yourself time away from them! It's so important. I've had four sets of very close friends that started dating each other and almost all have been trying. When fights occur many of them will try to get you to take sides (especially after the break up). Some of them will pull away because they're not sure what gets repeated back. It gets nuts.
Make sure you tell them that what is said to you is sacared. You don't repeat it to the other no matter what. And then stick to that.
Good luck cause in my experience you will need it
2006-12-10 21:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by masterjennjenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
holy crap, that's a tough situation. you definitley have the right of way, because u knew both of them before they knew each other. and if it weren't for you, they wouldn't even know each other. To stop it, make peace with both of them (or whatever, if ur still friends with the girl) and say your sorry, and that it was only a joke. u are like an older brother to both of them, mainly the girl, so for him to yell at you for anything you said is wrong. just try to make right with everything, and he will be forced to stop as well.
2006-12-10 21:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you try talking to them, sit them down maybe at lunch? and tell them how you feel.
Otherwise, let them be and try not to get involved with them because they have eachother and a 3rd person is abit odd.
Remember, they will break up eventually and they both will come crawling back to you anyway.
Good Luck!
2006-12-10 21:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by hypocrisy_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should tell them how u feel, but dont try to break them up or u might lose them as ur friends
2006-12-10 21:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by sweetthing2526 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you definitely don't want to lose them as best friends, right?
So try to talk to each one personally about how you feel about it, so that they'll understand that you value their friendship and you respect their relationship but you don't want them to sever ties with you just because they love each other.
2006-12-10 21:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by sweateredpanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it's true that you know her longer more than he know her....but love cant be measured on how long or short you two have known each other....maybe they really are inlove with each other.
2006-12-10 21:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by diana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋