I have been married for many years now. Recently an ex-high school boyfriend has came into my daily life. He came to my office the other day and informed me he wanted me for his Christmas present this year. Now I have a little devil on one shoulder saying go for it, what hubby don't know want hurt. Then the angel on the other shoulder is reminding me how good my hubby has been to be. Thing is I have never "been" with anyone but my husband and sometimes I am very curious as to what it would be like with another man. So would it be so bad to explore my curiosity. Give me your opinions.
2006-12-10 13:00:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should tell your ex bf that you are happily married and are in no way interested in him....don't wreck your home for some loser from the past.
2006-12-10 13:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥♥GODDESS♥♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well essentially when you marry you're signing on for your husband's p*nis forever. If you think that particular one is not enough you probably should split and give your husband a head's up before you get involved in a physical relationship with someone else. Does the fact that you're entertaining this at all mean that there's something missing in your marriage? Would it help you more to focus on that wrong thing? Your husband is the only man you've been with? Wow. Good for you!
If you decide not to stick with hubby, be ready for either getting caught and the consequences that come with it, or not getting caught and the consequences that come with that (guilt, paranoia, confusion, heartache) which are similar to getting caught. If you can keep it just sex and check it out once, then my thought is not to confess to a one time fling to your husband. Good luck with the decision.
2006-12-10 13:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This whole scenario is as old as the hills---what you experience and what the effects will be are serious. You should concern yourself with how to better your marriage with your husband---if you think there are problems ,tactfully work on them. How could you have any respect for a man who talks to a married woman the way your friend does. Can't he find a single woman---NOPE, that's too hard---he's going for the easy way. How do you know he doesn't have a disease from a lifetime of just bouncing around? And just what will you do if you are discovered cheating?? OHHHH BOOHOO I'm so sorry.....Snap out of it and tell this guy that you expect more from him as an old friend---respect, and nice conversation for starters. You will absolutely hate yourself when you come to your senses. DO THE RIGHT THING and spice up the marriage that you have. What if your husband did all this to you? I'm sure you'd be going nuts when you found out. This answer is very easy
2006-12-10 13:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it everyone is curious but that is just the devil he wants you to think of it like that that maybe it wont be as bad if i am jus doing it out of curiosity but it is still very wrong your husband is the only man you should EVER want to kiss or have sex with for the rest of your lives it isnt a game & im sure you know that you have to learn to resist the devils presure i know it is VERY hard but i know you can do it i have faith that you can so pray about it & make sure you let your ex know that your married now & you love your husband & you would appreciate it if he would talk to you as a friend & not a high skool pal !
2006-12-10 13:06:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please remember that things are not as exciting as you think they will be with another person. All you will have is a ruined marriage and a lot of shame.
Keep the flirting to a minimum. He probably doesn't really mean it anyway. He may have 20 different women he flirts with like that just because its fun. Keep your husband #1 in your life and don't let your thoughts get caught up in other men.
2006-12-10 13:04:18 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are playing with fire. you made a vow when you got married. don't vows mean anything anymore?
if you sew your wild oats with this ex-boyfriend, how do you know that it won't jeapardize your marriage?
how would you like it if your husband did the same thing to you? if he went behind your back and have hot steamy sex with an ex-girlfriend of it or another woman?
There is a reason why it's called "EX"boyfriend/"EX"girlfriend. Because the relationship didn't work out in the first place.
2006-12-10 13:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-01-26 03:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to do what you want regardless of what we say, so don't get mad the next time you and hubby are having sex and he says to you "where did you learn that trick?''
Also just make sure you don't end up pregnant around the time of the affair so that you do not know who is daddy.
2006-12-10 13:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by just lil ol' me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have a husband who is good to you don't even consider it, what would you want him to do in the same situation?
2006-12-10 13:04:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to the good angel...
2006-12-10 13:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by Nut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋