Need some advice.?

Question

I found a calendar of women in my husbands truck,which he is a truck driver and it kinda hurt my feelings.Do I need to worry or feel hurtful?It makes me think that he wants me to look like them>

Someone gave it to him,but he shouldn't have accepted it though.I don't have pictures of guys hung up at home,but looks like I'm going to.

Answer 1

They all look, and yes, it does hurt when you don't feel as if you compare. But as long as he comes home to you and doesn't stray, its alright. Just think, those women he looks at are just meat to him, you are the love of his life.

Answer 2

I wouldnrt worry about it. He loves you not the lady in the picture.That woman in the photo cant love him and doesnt mean anything to him

He accepted it because it would have been rude not to.

I understand the hurt feelings, we dont live up to those gals in pictures do we? We look in the mirror and pick out every imprefection we can find. Funny part is, they don't see those things that we do.

You know what! get yourself a sexy little outfit, get the camera out and take a photo of yourself. When he isnt looking put it in the truck. I bet you he'd put that gals pinup photo under the seat in a heartbeat. That will prove you have more power in his thoughts than that gal in the photo

Answer 3

Hey ladies who answered...what the heck happpened to right and wrong? I realize that to most of you it is an "anything goes" attitude, but would you really want to give that same advice to your daughter if she were ever in the same predicament?

It's NOT NORMAL!! It's base and wrong. Men have been allowed to be pigs, and then they get in trouble for being pigs.

My ex husband had a calendar in his truck many years before we got divorced, and then wouldn't you know, I discovered all these sexually perverted addictions of his.

I guess the point I want to make is that of self mastery. We can and should rise above the primal beast in all of us and aspire to something more pure in heart and wholesome. We become who we hang out with and what we fill our minds with. If you fill your mind with trash then trash becomes a way of life. If we fill our lives with service and a God centered home then that is who we will become.

If it really is "Just a calendar" then ask him to have one in his truck of puppies or kittens and see what he says. If he doesn't have a problem with it then maybe you caught one of the few times when a calendar is just a calendar, but I highly doubt it. Men choose those calendars for a reason.

We are all supporting the sex industry by condoning or defending things like this. The sex industry is going to be the downfall of our humanity. Go to the link I provided and learn how to keep the sex industry from negatively influencing our families.

Answer 4

It's a guy thing. They are at every truck stop. You don't need to worry that he wants you to look like that. He should be smart enough to realize that no one looks like that. Those photos have been computerized and redone so many times that they don't look like the women who posed for them.

All you have to do is make sure you welcome him home in a special way and he will be glad you aren't like the fake women on those calendars.

Answer 5

NO! that no meen enythin, maybe he wonts to buy 4 you something from that magezin, but he must 1 see at other women, or maybe he need a little bit fantasy so he can be good lover 4 u, and the best answer is that, all guys and mans go uot fith prity ladys (models and....) but they go home with the smart, cind and sweet lady who can also be a friend!
sorry 4 a bad grama, Emsy

Answer 6

I know exactly how you feel!! I just recently found porn that my husband tried to delete on our computer. It really made me feel like I wasn't good enough. I definately don't think he wants you to look like them, I think he was just being a male, and wanted something to entertain himself. As pethetic as men are, it's in their genes to be perverts all the time. As long as he is giving you full attention while he's not on the road, I dont think you have anything to worry about. I know you're hurt, I was too, but as long as you know he wouldn't cheat on you and you have trust in him, then don't sweat it. Men will be Men... good luck, and try not to let it bother you, im sure he loves and wouldnt have you any other way.

Answer 7

It is the nature of the beast. They are gonna look, and it is like being on a diet, it doesn't mean you can't look at the menu. Men do not associate sex with love like women do. Their idea of love is somewhere in outer space. Sex is not love.....I am sure he loves you, but why do you think sex is a billion dollar business.....there is a market, primarily male. It will drive you crazy it you let it. It is what it is and nothing more.

Answer 8

Does the calender have dates circled with names of women on it? If it doesn't DO NOT worry about it. He is a man. It's just a CALENDER.

Now if you found a live woman in his truck.....

Answer 9

You found one calendar of women? That's it? I wouldn't be worrying over this....it's nothing. Really. It's normal....

I know it's hurts your feelings just as it does all women when we find such in our mate's possessions, but that's just the way nature built them.

Return the favor, buy a nudie male mag and leave it where he can find it. Just smile when he has a temper tantrum.......

Answer 10

Tell him what he's doing with it and if he doesn't want to get rid of it tell him you are going to get a calendar of the Chipendales and put it in the bedroom.