Ever been in luv with someone you just can NOT have for so many reasons? (i wont go into them) if you're addicted to them, but know it can never work, how did u move on?? any experiences?? advice??
2006-12-10 12:49:03 · 23 answers · asked by KissesnKuddles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I was lucky - he moved away. Time does heal all wounds.
Peace!
2006-12-10 12:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I actually went through that. It has been over three years and guess what...I'm still going through it! Even though he was very bad for me: he even did some horrible damage to me physically and emotionally that could never be fixed. Still, no matter who you end up with after that person, something will always more than likely be in your heart about that person. What helped me move on in another sense....got on medication, relied on my family, got spiritual relief, and got a new pet. I'm putting it out there, but that's how I coped not having him in my life. You should also try new things...something that you normally wouldn't do. I'm not sure what it could be for you but just apply it and try it!!!
2006-12-10 21:06:00 · answer #2 · answered by wannabechelsea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try to keep myself preoccupied. You can try putting the energy into your other relationships. Do the stuff with them that you want to do with the object of your affection. Don't dwell on the romantic songs that remind you of her/him. Try to expect nothing to happen. If you think you have any chance that they like you back, ignore it.
UNLESS you think that person would change all their circumstances for you and they're worth it...then you might want to send out some clues to or ask roundabout questions to find out if it's mutual....
Tread carefully. You just have to take it one day at a time. Try reaching out to this person with no expectations. See what happens. Eventually you'll either be turned off, you'll get over them, or you'll be together!
2006-12-11 02:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, girls it's so hard but I distanced myself from him for a little while and started thinking of what it would be like being with him and all of the reasons why and it became clear to me that it just wasn't worth it. Then I started to try to think of other guys that I liked and focused on talking to them.
2006-12-10 20:55:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i broke up with my ex i just kept in mind how bad he treated me and i knew in my heart that i deserve better eventhough i loved him, i knew in my heart it would be best for me to let go so i did, i thought it was goin to be soooo hard but it wasnt, as the days went by i started to feel better about myself another thing that helped me move on is i cut off all contact i never called/text or emailed him i just went on with my life, and it's so funny how things happen. we've been apart for about 8 months and just the other day i got an email from him...but all that doesnt matter to me b/c i do not feel the same way about him...however your situation maybe different from mine, but when you know something is not right for you or isnt going to workout for you, you have no choice but to move on...it's called self respect move on and get over it
2006-12-10 21:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there! I tried everything to ignore my feelings, to just be his friend, etc. No dice. The only thing that worked for me: cold turkey. No phone calls, emails, text, etc. Hurts, but after a couple of months you will start to fill your life with other things and it will get easier. Good luck to you!
2006-12-10 21:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be strong and move on. You will always have feelings for this person but you can't put life on hold waiting for them. The right one may come along and you might miss them for waiting for this other person.
2006-12-10 20:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by leilagallery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop this addiction which is all it really is, although you think you love him. There are so many great guys to meet with whom you can have feelings given back to you.
2006-12-10 20:51:08 · answer #8 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is stay away from them and wene i say stay away meen dont even see them dont be around them in any way it will only make it worse wene they say out of sight out of mind it is so true i know it will be hard trust me i been through it but time will mend a broken hart
2006-12-10 20:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex got over it by sleeping with a married guy she worked with. Breaks the emotional bond I guess.
2006-12-10 20:53:15 · answer #10 · answered by deviatedheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you just have to make yourself. whats the point in going over and over the reasons why when you know it will never change. you have to look to the future and leave it in the past.
2006-12-10 20:52:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋