When the person that supposedly shares said memory doesn't recall the same event.
2006-12-10 12:39:39 · 22 answers · asked by Diesel Weasel 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
It frustrates me more than I can express. It is a memory...a recollection of a shared experienced--how difficult can it be to recall such a personal event????
When a person does not remember such common incident as I have, a state of cognitive dissonance is created. I now must decide whether I have malfunctioned or s/he did.
This frustration you ask of is so powerful that it is harnessed for psychological abuse. "Gaslighting"--coined from the 1940's psychological thriller of the same name--uses persistent denials of fact, which—as they build up over time—make the victim progressively anxious, confused, and less able to trust his or her own memory and perception.
It is like stalking or eroding the soul. For if my memory is as real to me as my typing this answer yet someone invalidates that 'real' memory than how do I know that my typing is not invalid also. Scary, but it happens. Excuse the tangent.
2006-12-10 17:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by LUCKY3 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
That's a very good question. I think there's a difference between remembrance and validation; how do you validate a memory on someone who has Alzheimers. My dad has that, and he can remember everything about the Korean Conflict because he fought there but yesterday is a blur. I believe it is a chemical imbalance and a combination of relation; some people choose to remember certain things, others do not- I have witnessed that. We can hope that our memories are intact by accepting a relieved moment, meaning if a severe trauma took place, that individual needs spiritual guidance but comes from within and without. Try to have patience, I know that is not easy to do but have the guts and courage to educate yourself and never give up on our elders or ourselves; we are all worth the weight in gold and more. I thank you for reading this and I wish you many blessings this holiday season.
2006-12-10 12:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Selective Memory is the Correct Term
Yes I agree
2006-12-10 12:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very much so - I have large gaps in my short and long term memory due to damage from life threatening sleep apnea - my blood oxygen levels back then were only 67%. So I had a lot of problems.
2006-12-10 12:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its frustrating because you get little too much insight into how little attention that person was paying to your perspective on things. Like the book says, for example only:"He jus ain't all that into ya." Self-absorbtion. It makes things go poof!
2006-12-10 12:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I hate when that happens . But I even have a hard time just validating a parking parking pass... *
2006-12-10 12:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by Les Gramps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very much so but, I'm usually the one who doesn't remember. Drives me crazy. My mother and sister will be talking about something that happened and I'm totally lost. They just laugh it off. They know why I can't remember.
2006-12-10 12:42:20 · answer #7 · answered by ♫ Insane_Princess ♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it makes me sad when something that was special enough to be a profound memory for me isn't even remembered by someone else that shared it, how little we really know each other...
2006-12-10 12:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooohh, I hate that!....and then you start to wonder if you're nuts or something and you start thinking, "Well maybe it DIDN'T really happen...". Yep, that's truly frustrating.
P.S. "Selective memory" is not actually the correct term for it.
2006-12-10 12:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They never do! It's called selective memory!
2006-12-10 12:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋