How Can I Get The Company My Boyfriend Works for to Randomly Drug Test Him?

Question

he has been doing drugs since he was 12 and he is 19 now. since we have been together this past 2 years he has only done drugs a few times. But recently (like last month until now) he has started doing drugs with his co workers. he has been at his job since march. is there a way that i can convince Wal-Mart to do a random drug test? if he gets fired its ok cuz he has two other jobs to support him. I just want him to OPEN his eyes and see how this could truly effect him.

Answer 1

Please do not try to sabotage his job, which might lead to him being fired, and then become subsequently depressed, and then spiral into further drug usage to numb his pain. Plus, if he finds out that you set him up, he'll never trust you again, and that can't be good for a relationship. Not to mention, WalMart is a huge corporation with policies written from the top down--it is highly unlikely anything you say could make them implement a new drug-testing policy. And, even if you somehow manage to get random drug testing at work and he doesn't find out it was you that set it up, then you'll always be hiding that as a secret from him, which will probably make you feel guilty. That can't be good for your relationship either.

If you've been together for 2 years, then you should be able to talk to him, have a heart-to-heart, and tell him sincerely how this is affecting you, and other people around him. If that doesn't work, try support in numbers, by having an intervention--get a bunch of people from his family, friends, etc., who are negatively affected by this and/or concerned for his health and well-being, and communicate that to him while everyone is together, sort of like a counseling session. Sometimes, interventionists give the person an ultimatum, like, "if you don't get help, I just want you to know we can't date anymore," or will refuse to financially support the addict until he/she is clean and sober. http://www.intervention.com/faqfintv.html

And, as for you, I'd say that you're pretty close to all of this, as his girlfriend, and you might want to seek support for yourself, at someplace like Alanon or Alateen, to help you cope. You can meet other people who are going through the same things as you, and can learn effective ways to deal with the emotions and circumstances you encounter as someone close to a person struggling with an addiction.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.html

Good luck and take care.

Answer 2

Do you really expect that sort of thing to have a good effect on your relationship? I think most guys would kick you to the curb the first time it happened simply because it shows that you will not keep faith with them.

If you have a problem with his habits then bring it up with him. He is holding down three jobs so he apparently isn't doing too badly. You would rather get kicked to the curb and wind up with some bum who can't even hold down one job?

Just FYI, lots of successful people use drugs on a regular basis. Go out to any nightclub or restaurant and count all the people having a beer or glass of wine with dinner.

If you follow the advice of some of these people then you will probably get him fired whether he was using drugs or not.

In short -- get a life.

Answer 3

Drug test ONLY you - or is it now a policy to test ALL employees? BIG difference. Obviously, the company has the right to implement its own policies and work rules - they only have to be in compliance with the law and obviously cannot be prejudicial or based on race, color and so fourth. If this is now company policy and implemented across the board, I doubt you have any legal recourse other than to be drug tested in accordance to the company's rules. Obviously, this condition of employment will necessarily have to be disclosed to any potential new employees before they are hired.

Answer 4

Your thinking makes me believe that YOU should be tested for drugs. Being fired from a job is not going to make him get off drugs. It's got to be his choice, not yours. There are alot more supportive ways that you can elect to help him with his problem but getting him fired is not showing support. Drugs are illegal and you may end up having him slapped with a felony if he's possessing drugs. That's not a good way to show your love. Try an organization like alanon that works with loved ones of substance abusers. They may have more realistic ways that you can help. Your intentions may be good but won't help him or your relationship.

Answer 5

You don't. Since it's random, they randomly do it, unless they believe he is using drugs right before his shift or during it. If that's the case, they will look at his friends to. If he has been using with his friends, they will fail. You're not only messing with your boyfriend's life, you are messing with others' as well. If he finds out, he will dump you.

Answer 6

I understand your situation, but backstabbing would hardly be the right answer as it can and will lead to resentment and possibly hatred.

My answer would be to let him know in no uncertain terms that you can not tolerate drug abuse (and it is abuse, so phrase it that way).
He may need time to quit, but set a goal and be prepared to leave him.

Because in the end, whether you leave him or whether you backstab him and he leaves you as a result, either way it's a lost cause, so take the initiative and let him know, then be ready to follow through.

Answer 7

call them and tell them that you suspect one of their employees apeared to be on drugs, you can see it in his eyes, or you smelt it on him, ask if they allow their employees to behave in this manner, say you noticed it a few days ago(give them a day when your boyfriend worked and his name from his name tag..i am sure they will test him.....NOW think about this..he will be fired and it will go into his personnel file why he was fired do you want to do that to him...it is wrong, and not healthy for him to do drugs, but it is his choice..since you do nto like it let him know how you feel and you see him changing, for the worse, give him examples and tell him that it is upsetting to you to see him do this to himself then you make a decision if you want to remain in a relationship..because if he wants to do it losing a job at wal-mart will not change him

Answer 8

Call WM and let them know that you have proof of him doing it. There must be a clause that states the drug testing is random unless there is sufficient evidence for them to check.

Answer 9

IM SORRY TO SAY BUT IT DOSENT SEEM LIKE UR BOYFRIEND IS GANNA CHANGE NO MATTER WERE HE GOES AND MABY U SHOULDENT BE WITH SOMEONE THAT ABUSES HIM SELF LIKE THAT

Answer 10

HAHAHA! that wouldnt be random now would it?