He is wondering why he has a penis and his younger sisters don't. He's wondering what the penis purpose is and his sister's vagina. He's not a hormone crazed teenager he just turned 5 in October. I need help from other moms. Hubby is in Iraq right now and I don't know what and how to explain this to James. Mothers and fathers questions are welcomed.
-Olivia
2006-12-10 12:16:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I don't know how to explain it to him... I know he is too young for THE TALK, but I want to be able to answer his questions. It's just at the age of 27 (my age) I wasn't expecting my 5 year old son to start asking me about sex.
2006-12-10 12:18:10 · update #1
I have an older daughter (7) and a son (4). She asked the same thing.. only backwards. I told her that the penis is on boys only and that girls got the vagina. It is the way God made it. Then when she asked what it was for.. I had to think. I told her that when she is an adult (50 if hubby gets his way) she will have a baby come out of it and that the penis helps the mom and dad make the baby. She said OK. I figure I wont lie to her but I am not about to go into more detail then she needs at that age. Good luck. That is a sticky situation!!!
2006-12-10 12:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
You son is not asking a sexual question when he asks about why he has a penis and his sister doesn't. He just wants to know why there is a difference. The answer is very simple. Tell him that boys are made with a penis and girls are made with a vagina. All he needs to know right now is that he uses his penis to pee and girls have another hole near their vagina where the pee comes from. For a child his age, his curiosity is strictly anatomical in nature and not sexual. Don't read more into his question until he begins to ask more questions. It is like the old joke about the son who asked his dad where he came from. Dad went into great detail about the "birds and the bees" complete with illustrations. When dad was done, thinking he had done a great job, he asked the son if he had anything he wanted to say. Son says, "Well, Timmy came from Chicago."
2006-12-10 22:03:23 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Olivia,
Your son isn't really asking you about sex, just about his body. My almost 5 year old daughter asked me the other day how do grown ups make babies. It surprised me that she was asking so young, too! But I realized that it is curiosity about how she and I are different from her little brother and father. I knew giving her the "sex talk" wasn't what she wanted or needed at this age.
I want her to know the real names of all body parts and to feel comfortable asking me anything. She already knows that girls have vagina's and boys penis's. I told her the truth in simple words in a scientific way. I left out the sexual arousal and all that, Pretty much just went with the clinical facts. Hope this helps a bit.
2006-12-10 20:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by OrganicFoodsMom 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He is NOT asking about sex. He is asking an innocent question. You simply tell him God made boys and girls differently. Boy's penises are to urinate with (or whatever your term is) and the girls go to the bathroom by sitting down instead. You simply tell him his penis is made to make him a Daddy when he gets big and his sister's vagina is made to help her be a Mommy. Keep your explanations extremely simple and do not elaborate. If he wants more information he will ask for it. He does not need to know how babies are made biologically. Get the video "Where did I come from" from your local library. It is at his approximate age level and it will help you if you need. There are several child level sex education books out there that keep things at their level and do not provide any information that is not age appropriate.
2006-12-10 20:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Maybe telling him that it is for him to pee with, and the same for his sister will suffice. Just say, you guys gave him the advantage of peeing while standing up. Tell him it is what makes him a male and let your husband tell him that he has a penis too.
I doubt he is asking about sex, but having a "why is this?"
question in his mind, which is age appropriate.
2006-12-10 21:36:13 · answer #5 · answered by Professor Sheed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Keep it very simple and matter-of-fact. Explain just the basic physical differences right now, using proper names for anatomy. Over the next few years, you can add more to the discussion when the time is right.
2006-12-10 20:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by Shars 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
u have 2 explain
2006-12-11 16:47:36 · answer #7 · answered by chelsea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural for him to wonder at his age. Just tell him that his penis is what makes him a boy. Vice-versa for his sisters. Good Luck!!!!
2006-12-10 20:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Just explain to him he has a peni because he is a boy and his sisters dont because they are girls. No need to get into detail since he won't understand. you can also let him know his daddy has one but you don't.
2006-12-10 20:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by Mindy 2 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Just explain to him the fact that girls and boys are different and act different. Because of this, they are blessed with different identifying sex organs and that he is to always be respectful of this fact.
If this doesn't work, then pop in a Ron Jeremy flick and show him how the "well equipted" penis is properly utilized.
2006-12-10 20:25:09 · answer #10 · answered by abroad121458 2 · 0⤊ 8⤋