are your parents divorced..?

Question

luckily mine are not but I have noticed that so many marriges are ending theese days! why is this! And maY i suggest not having a child until you know you are ging to stay together forever becuase so many of my friends are hurt by their seperated parents and they dont even know the damage and pressure they put to their kids..

am i the only one who thinks this is wrong?

sorry guys forgot to spellcheck on this one

Answer 1

No they weren't, but both have died now.
I totally agree with your outlook. My husband and I are married over 17 years with a 15 year old, and although things have been tough at times, our commitment stays strong and we love each other more now than ever. It's hard work, but it's fun!

Answer 2

There are no guarantees that ANYTHING will last forever.

My parents have been married for 40 years
My GP have been married for 65 years
MY Aunts and uncles have been married 30-40 years.

I was married 14 years...now divorced 18 months.
All anyone can do is behave in such a way that they know their actions are right and just. You can't control the other person nor their actions. I didn't start out expecting to get divorced. I am very religious and got married in a sacred religious ceremony where it is sealed by God for time and all eternity. I took that seriously. Unfortunately he did not. And there was nothing I could do to fix it or change his attitude about his unrepentant behaviour. I wish it were different. I have 3 boys that see that influence. But I know that those boys were supposed to come to me and their dad. Whatever I did right in heaven I am being blessed for it here on earth, and I thank God everyday for those sweet kids.

Is it hard on them? Sure it is. But one by one as they get older I tell them the truth and they get to decide how to feel about it. I don't tell them to hate him or hate marriage. I tell them to live their lives in such a way that their future kids won't be heartbroken like they were. If you live your life honorably that is all that matters. I couldn't keep him from screwing up his life, and I had to piece my life back together, but it isn't a guarantee. Go to my link and read about how families can be together forever. GL

Answer 3

My parents are divorced. I was 16 when the finally called it quits. I also have 2 older sisters that were 18 and 20 at the time. So you are telling me that my parents were supposed to either know....20 years ahead of time that they weren't going to be happy, or.....wait 20 years??? Thats impossible to predict. I do agree with you to the fact that if someone has a new born, and is getting a divorce, that is wrong, and they just gave up. But alot of divorces are similar to my parents. For both of them, it was a better thing. They are both much happier now.

Answer 4

My mother is on her second marriage and my dad got remarried but lost his second wife to cancer. I'm in the minority. Those two people should not coexist on the same planet, and I was grateful when that travesty finally ended. There's only so much anyone can take and the volatile atmosphere in which I was raised has taken its toll. Life is a constant struggle. The only reason my marriage is a success is because a) I know what NOT to do, and b) my wife is an amazing woman who I love dearly with all my heart.

Answer 5

I am a divorced parent and I know the damage and pressure put on kids when both parents are miserable in their marriage. I am also the product of parents who stayed married "for the children" and I can honestly say that I wished they had divorced. It is a lousy thing to put the balme of staying in an unhappy environment making everyone else more and more miserable on the children. I wouldn't do that to my child my daughter is a wonderfully happy loving person and she deserved to have paretns who were happy, so we divorced.

Answer 6

No, my parents are not divorced but my mom is my dad's second wife and I have two half brothers.

Sure children are hurt by divorce but don't you think it's better for them if they're not around constant fighting? It would be living a lie if two people stayed together solely to keep up appearances for their kids. A child can be properly taken care of by divorced parents.

I think people jump into marriage too soon. People are getting married after dating for only 2 years, you BARELY know people in two years!

Answer 7

I disagree with you. My parents divorced when I was a baby and Im so glad they did. Everyone makes mistakes and sometimes things just dont work out. If my parents had stayed together and been miserable, I would have had a bad childhood. My older brother said it was horrible when they were married because they were always fighting. Im glad I was spared those bad memories. I agree that divorce is not the ideal situation, but sometimes it's better then the alternative.

Answer 8

Nobody, when they get married ever thinks that they are going to get divorced. They always think that it will be forever.

Sometimes it's much better for kids to have divorced parents who are happier apart than miserable together.

Don't be so quick to judge if you haven't walked in someones shoes dearie! You're obviously very young and inexperienced. I think you have a lot of growing up to do yet.

Answer 9

When I got married, I believed we were going to be together forever & we had a beautiful little girl together. Unfortunately, after 7 years he decided he wanted to be single. So now I'm dealing with consoling a little girl who's daddy doesn't show up to see her.

Answer 10

My parents are, but they were married for 25 years before it happened, so I don't think you can say that you have to know you're going to stay together forever... sometimes things just happen. Believe me, it was better for me and my siblings that they got divorced. They were miserable, and making us even more so.