OK I have been married a year and and almost 2 months my husband has cheated one me he says he didn't but I know he did he used my credit card renting a room he alos gave me cervical cance and several STDs I beleive u are supposed to fight for yo marrigae with everything u got but i'm tired now so should i but him him out now?I never cheated on him
2006-12-10 12:08:55 · 61 answers · asked by YOSUGABABY4LIFE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes you're supposed to fight for your marriage/the one you love but you're NOT supposed to put up with such crap. If fidelity and your health are important to you, you should ditch this guy.
2006-12-10 12:11:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
You know there is no cookie cutter answer. It really depends on what you want to do. First off, if he isn't admitting to the affair, in my opinion, there's a higher chance that he will indeed do it again. If he can't stand up and admit wrongness and ask forgiveness, it would seem that he either doesn't care if he was wrong or he doesn't believe it was wrong. That in my opinion makes it so much worse.
As for leaving him. I think its a proven fact that most people who cheat once will cheat again. However, not all the time. You have to decide on what you want. First off can you forgive him. If not you will end up making you life a living hell. His too, but more importantly yours. Second off can you trust him again? If not it doesn't leave much of a marriage.
There are some people that can live with a cheating spouse and be happy with it and there are some that live with it and are miserable. You have to decide what makes a marriage in your mind and then see how the situation compares. Perhaps you won't be walking away froma marraige, but instead a lesson.
Above all I say choose happiness for yourself........
2006-12-10 12:23:18 · answer #2 · answered by masterjennjenn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well once a cheat, always a cheat as they say. BUT I MUST tell you cervical cancer is NOT something he gave you. STD'S OK I'm sure he may very well have given you some or all of the ones you have gotten. But Not the cancer. And Yes you already know the answer of what you should do. Dump him. Sorry, and Good luck in whatever direction you take.
2006-12-10 14:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run as fast as you cannnnnnnnn! He's probably getting hookers thats why he took your credit card and that's why you now have an STD !!!! It has only been a year, the ink is still fresh on the marriage certificate and he is already running around!
You deserve better then a cheating, filthy, liar !!!!
2006-12-10 12:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by TRUSTME 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That you have to decide on, but if he has given you the STD;s already, move on, I am sorry but a cheater is always a cheater...I may be wrong by 1 or 2, but i made a choice to move on, I was better than that and my husband did not deserve me, I was true to him, so it threw out...I had a hard time at first, he was my only love and i had married very young...I m remarried, and I am very happy...you are worth more than that too..........
2006-12-10 12:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was married to my kids daddy, however he cheated also several times and I was like you trying to work it out, but after it gets to the point your health becomes involve you have to put you first. Love yourself no matter what happens, because all you have is you and marriage dont keep a man. He will cheat if he wants to cheat. I hope I was of help to you
2006-12-10 12:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by uniqueness 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are 100% sure he did cheat on you and brought those diseases into your marriage - I would get out. Fighting for a man that promised you he would be faithful is not in the vows. Fidelity is a legitimate reason for leaving him. He could give you AIDS!!!! Get out.
2006-12-10 12:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
interestingly you and this different woman are allowing your husband to control the the two one in each and every of you. He calls her in front of you, tells her off, you're confident and chuffed, he then is going to her, explains why he had to do it, he apologises and on and on the sport is going. you're saying you at the instant cannot flow away by using fact of your 2 babies, he's conscious this so he keeps to cheat. there's no incentive at worried with him to no longer. How plenty information do you like? i'm sorry to declare yet you're in denial and have favourite to stay there as a thank you to steer away from the certainty. merely understand, with out exchange or action, issues will proceed to be as they are. you're able to desire to end being the pushover he has come to work out you as and prepare your babies a solid occasion on how plenty a female could submit with. Plan and discover the economic supplies to go on faraway from this deceiving husband of yours. that's by no potential trouble-free to stand up and do what you recognize is solid for you yet interior the long-term that's properly worth it for the self admire you start to sense. better of success to you!
2016-12-30 05:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question, are you going to be happy or is it going to affect your well being as an individual. Have you ever heard of once a cheater always a cheater.
Can you trust him fully again? Why do you want to be with someone you will not be able to trust.
Are you going to wait until your husband brings home aids to get the point?
2006-12-10 12:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by Emily L 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a silly question OF COURSE!!! You should Have did it a long time ago...I also am a strong believer of making a marriage work but obviously he doesn't care about you enough to cover his thing up and that he puts your life on the line every time he does it. I hope you don't have any kids but if you do then think...do you want them to see their mommy dying of aids?? And if you don't would you want to see your mom dying of it? Think, Pack and Leave!!!!
2006-12-10 12:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by littlemama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hire a private investigator to provide you the evidence, have your paper documented of the STD, and then get a lawyer to assist you in winning a lot of spousal support when you get the divorce.
2006-12-10 12:12:48 · answer #11 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋