my brother-in-law is recently divorced and when his sons come back from visiting their mother (he has custody)

Question

the youngest one has severe behavioral problems and it takes almost until the next time they go back to visit their mother for him to get streightened back out, does this ever go away? Would counceling help with this?

Answer 1

you might consider having the courts limit visitation on the mother to supervised only

Answer 2

I had this problem years ago with my two children returning from seeing their father. It seriously took near the next time before all was back as it should be, then repeat it again. Finding out later it was his mouth and pain he was creating. Counseling helped letting the children know that it was neither parent fault, things happen, the children had no reason to worry about being removed from the family and their father had no right to place them in the middle by stating nasty things during his visitation. Keep in mind we divorced cuz he beat and cheated........now they are adults and they say the things he use to tell them as young young children was awful, very painful. They now love their father but they feel removed because of the pain he put on their little shoulders. They still carry anger toward him about this. I encourage them to this day to let it lay in the past not worth it now! Good Luck, yes it can go away but counseling will bring out why and then you find the resolution part. Me at first, I would punish for the behavior and that was not helping I am here to tell you that. Find the seed of the problem

Answer 3

Counseling couldn't hurt. But it may be a family issue more than just a problem with the son. Does he have any idea what is going on when his son is with his mom? He should talk to her if possible and try to find out what's going on. I would want to know who is around him at mom's house. Plus, if mom is not doing a good job, he really needs to see about getting supervised visitation or suspending visitation altogether.

Answer 4

she will be in a position to certainly document for a custody replace, it really is her dime. the threat that any choose may replace custody orders at that age with out the youngster retaining a particular favor isn't very in all likelihood. In yet another 12 months he will be an individual and custody subject matters received't matter, if he needs to bypass stay at the same time with his mom then enable him in the different case, i does no longer problem about the problem in any respect.

Answer 5

I have the same situation only in reverse. When my kids come back from their dads it takes me several days to get the authority back. I have them in counseling. It seems to give them a neutral place to vent and say what is on their minds. It is natural for the kids to react to a broken home, and he may always have a difficult time trying to figure out why the adults he trusted couldn't keep his home happy and intact...go figure.

Answer 6

I know what he's going through its called or what I like to coin as the "fun parent syndrome" they go to mama or daddy every other wkend and then get back to the custodial parent with rules.The other parent lets them make their own rules and nothing is never a no with them .my ex does this with our boys but mine take about two good days to straigthen back out.BTW she's not gaining anything by it just spending her money on gifts and letting him run wild doesn't show one that you love them you have to act like a parent 24/7 no matter what position in life you hold with them custodial or not.I suggest he tell his lawyer of this behavior.

Answer 7

My son was the same way when he visited his dad. He spent two years in counseling and nothing helped. He is now 19, and I can still tell when he has spent time at his dad's house.

Answer 8

I'm sorry but I couldn't help asking how did you make your avatar like that? That is so sexy, I want one so it can look like me and my boyfriend. Anyways for your question yes counceling would be the best thing. Or you could just spank his butt and see how that works out.