I work two jobs and go to school full time. My husband and I have been very busy with work and our daily lives, and haven't had much time for us, so we scheduled a for us TODAY to spend time together all day. We turned our cells and house phone, ignored the doors and so forth, even woke up and had amazing sex. The day was fine but all through the day all he wanted to do was something sexual and that's fine, but I wanted to just spend time together watching movies, eating, and etc and sex is cool but that was all he wanted to do all day. I also had to finish my assignment for school because I am in finals next week so he tried to make me feel guilty like he always does. I thought the day was going to be relaxed and not just about sex sex sex all day. Not to mention I just had surgery on my shoulder and am exhausted from working two jobs and attending school full time. HELP
2006-12-10 11:51:03 · 20 answers · asked by Michelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay keithy truth is we had sex when we woke up I blew him a few hours later, and then jacked him off a few hours after that. I'm tired and want rest, snuggle, watch movies, and do more togetherness than just sex. Oh I forgot to tell you that it's very hard to blow someone when you have 30 stitches in your arm and it's hard to have sex when your husband puts all his weight on your sore shoulder. There you have it
2006-12-10 12:02:01 · update #1
Men just have a different definition of "hanging out". I know this from personal experience. When my wife wants to hang out all i hear is: "let's have sex!!" When in actuality all she wants to do is cuddle on the couch and watch movies. So, you're normal sweetheart.
2006-12-10 11:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by the big sexy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your not wrong at all. That's perfectly normal. You were more or less just wanting the quality time with him, and there's lots of ways to spend quality time besides having sex.
As a guy, I can say that some of us feel that having sex is quality time with our wives. But I have realized that women need more than sex, that just spending time together is just as important.
2006-12-10 12:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have spent the entire day in bed. When he was busy with something else I would sleep and rest my shoulder. I would love to be able to spend that much time making love to my husband.
2006-12-10 11:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are both in the right. He wants you, and that's a good thing....it sounds like you don't spend much time together, and he has been resisting any temptation out there (right?), and now he has a whole bunch of manhood built up and wants to use it all with you...and your side is wanting to spend quality time together doing things that lovers do..which is just as justifiable....communication is key here.... let him know what you want, and that you're willing to meet him halfway .... that puts the ball in his hands...
2006-12-10 12:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by j-chris 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you're not wrong. You live a busy life. Maybe ya'll need to make time throughout the week so u can have more time on those chosen days to do your own thing.
2006-12-10 11:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by naweb230 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you agree to this given your condition. Obviously you guys didn`t talk about what your expectations were for the day...no it is never obvious...next time plan a little better...still can`t figure out why you would do this and you weren`t being honest with him since you obviously had plans to do school work during your day off just for us...
2006-12-10 12:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by Therapist King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to screw all day because he doesn't know when he is going to get another opportunity with you. He is thinking "I'd better get all I can get while I can get it because who knows when I am going to have sex again". You must find time to have sex on more of a regular basis.
2006-12-10 12:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by a dude 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its normal, and he has to understand that for sex to be meaningful, both parties have to be willing and active. Not just to shut the other one up. Tell him you have other stuff to do and other things planned for a nice evening that doesnt involve sex
2006-12-10 11:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so it was not a day for the 2 of u but instead u wanted a day in which u could have your way, how typical of a woman. what was wrong with a day of sex and sexual related items, i bet he did not have u in the sack all day long and u 2 did more than have (that nasty 3 letter word)sex all day long. give more details did u 2 stay naked all day or were the other things going on that he wanted to do, or is it that u just want to make your hubby look bad to everyone on answers, fess up, if u have the nerve
2006-12-10 11:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by keithy 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
It's the differences between men and women. To you by wanting to spend time together watching movies and such is your way of showing him you love him. To him, having sex is his way of showing you he loves you.
2006-12-10 11:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by Deus Luminarium 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋