why does he seem so interested in me and then shut me out as soon as we get close am i doing something wrong its not like i stalk him or anything.
2006-12-10 11:49:14 · 12 answers · asked by whitney b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
oo and did i mention im younger than 14 and older than 10 just a little hint oo and like im not ready 2 commit and um........ getting close as in flirting and shutting me out as in changing the subject and ruining the moment
2006-12-10 12:01:05 · update #1
It's not you,it sounds like you are ready for that.He seems to have a problem with it.Find out why he has a problem with it,then go from there.
2006-12-10 11:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that you didn't do anything wrong. I am a girl and actually put a guy in a very similar situation to yours 3 years ago...and turns out, we're now madly in love. I think what may have made her back off - as in my case - is that you aren't the quintesential "bad" guy that girls admittedly fall for at least once or twice in their lives, especially at 21. And, that confuses girls. Sensitive, sweet guys who "snuggle" and "play with our hair" are something new and ....honestly, a bit scary. I remember that I hung out with my now boyfriend almost weekly and we texted constantly. I felt so comfortable with him but for some reason I backed away for a couple weeks. I told him I wasn't ready for a relationship, etc. etc. By the end of the summer, I had a complete change of heart and realized that he was someone I needed to be with for so many reasons. Main point: give it time. don't stress. sometimes it takes people a while to come around...especially since she just broke up with a bf.
2016-05-23 03:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by Sara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing what you mean by "close" it's tough to answer the question. There are many guys who want only "surface" connections preferably with sex involved. That's OK if that's what you want too but it probably isn't. I'd suggest that you get to know a guy before getting close. Find out about his thoughts about life, relationships, family, skills, phobias etc. etc. etc. and keep looking for deal breakers. Deal breakers are disrespect, guys who don't do what they say they will do, exaggerations and the so on. Time and good decisions don't go together in the same sentence when one talks about finding good guys.
2006-12-10 11:57:04 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be cold feet. I remember when I was young that if a girl started getting too serious, I would run. Scared me that bad. Took me many years to except relationships and commitment.
2006-12-10 11:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by Dub 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people often get scared when something is maybe gonna change things in their lives.
for me personally, I have to make sure its real first, before I risk and change, at all, even a little. Its fun to dream. Gotta have something real or I'm not goin anywhere.
2006-12-10 11:53:06 · answer #5 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough info.
Seems interested like what?
You get close by doing what?
Details!
2006-12-10 11:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by guardian707 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a control game to keep you guessing. He likes to see how many times he can keep getting you back. I do it all the time.
2006-12-10 11:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean getting physically close, then it is possible that you have offensive body odor or bad breath.
2006-12-10 11:55:18 · answer #8 · answered by greenhorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect at your age you probally should still be playing with Barbie and not concerning yourself with boys.
2006-12-10 12:17:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you dont have much in common
2006-12-10 11:52:52 · answer #10 · answered by caveman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋