I'm sixteen years old and I am 2 months pregnant. My boyfriend wants us to stay together and get married but I'm scared. He is the only one who knows. Should I keep the baby or get an abortion. Please help!
2006-12-10 11:44:19 · 19 answers · asked by samantha 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The first thing you need to ask yourself is: Will we be getting married just because I am pregnant? If the answer to that question is "yes," then you should not get married. By all means, do not have an abortion. There are plenty of people out there in the world who would love to adopt your baby who cannot have children. My wife and I are hoping to adopt a baby some day because we cannot have children. After 10 years of marriage and trying to have a baby, my wife had to have a hysterectomy due to medical problems. There are plenty of people out there like us who would jump at the chance to adopt a baby. But don't just decide to give your baby up for adoption unless you are sure that is what you want to do. Talk to your family. They may be perfectly willing to help you keep your baby. If your boyfriend wants to stay together with you and get married, that is great. Just don't rush into things. See how well he stays around and helps you out during your pregnancy. See how well he stays around and helps after the baby is born. If you see that he truly wants to be committed to you and the baby, then think about marriage. You have all the time in the world, there is no point into rushing into it. I hope and pray that everything works out for you and your baby. Please know that you are in my prayers. Take care of your precious cargo and yourself!
2006-12-10 12:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by jjodom1010 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have the baby and give it up for adoption. you are too young to care for a baby. your boyfriend will most likely not hang around, no matter if he's a great guy or not. you can't even drive a car yet, how are you going to raise a child with no job,etc.
you made a mistake by having sex young, now is your chance to redeem yourself. if you keep the baby, life will be extremely difficult.
don't have an abortion, that will mess you up in more ways than you know.
you need to tell your parents, no matter how scared you are. they will be able to help you make some decisions. no matter what they say, they love you, and want what's best.
i hope you learn your lesson, and wait to have sex until you are financially and emotionally ready to have a child, WITH YOUR HUSBAND. your boyfriend can say he wants to be married until he's blue in the face, but once he's faced with the responsibility of being a parent and father, who knows how he'll react.
you are going to have a lot of people here say to have the baby; they did it, blah, blah, but you have to make your own choices. all i'm saying is don't abort.
2006-12-10 19:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get an abortion. I'm sure that will be very traumatic for you.
If you are sure you can't raise your baby, consider giving him or her for adoption. But you have a clear advantage in the support from your bf. Guys are usually the first to get scared and run away. If he is not scared, you shouldn't be, either.
Depending on your relationship with your family, it may be hard to tell them. As someone already said, try starting with an older brother or sister. The fact of sharing your "secret" will help you make it less stressful.
Even after telling your parents, even if the first reaction may be anger, I'm sure you'll get their support (it is their grandchild we're talking about).
And you can also try something like "You guys are going to be grandparents" instead of "I'm pregnant".
Wish you all the luck in this one, and honestly hope that you can live happily with your bf and your child.
2006-12-10 20:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by Eng_helper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't rush into marriage! By getting pregnant, you have just made an 18 year committment. Making a lifetime committment (marriage) will not make things any easier. It will make things harder.
As for abortion, that is something you and your boyfriend need to talk about together to see if it is the right choice for you. If it is, you need to find out what the restrictions are in your state.
You should consider adoption. There are many couples who are more prepared financially, mentally, and emotionally, who would love to adopt a baby.
2006-12-10 19:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by bewitching_green_fairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk to your parents or somebody that you are really close to. If you decide that you would love to raise your baby, set some goals on what you would like to achieve to make it possible. Employment is a huge plus, but please don't stop getting your education. Abortion? Just think about it - you will go through the rest of your years wondering. You will have more questions eating away at you, almost to the point of driving you mad. Adoption is a good thing if you feel you are not capable of raising a child. One of the down sides of this is that you will always know that you have a child out there, that does not know you. Just believe that God is taking care of your child no matter what happens.
I would love to adopt if I had the chance.
2006-12-10 20:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it is natural to be scared, even mother who are in their twenties and thirties are scared. personally I would keep the baby, especially since the Father is willing to stand by you; however this is a decision you and your boyfriend have to make. Abortion does do more damage to your body than having the baby does, whatever you choose PLEASE know all the facts and make an intelligent decision about this. Know all the pros and cons to each, this is definitely not the time to jump to a decision. Besides, if you are in the U.S. you no longer have the option to abort, the time limit stops at two months, legally anyway.
2006-12-10 19:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by lisads1973 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look inside yourself, see what you truly want for yourself, discuss the problem with your parents, then, when you have all the facts, make the choice that suits you. Carrying and raising a child is a big job and only you know if you are ready for it.
Whatever you choose, hold your head high. By the way please ignore rude, biased bigoted remarks like Heather's above! How dare people try to make a difficult situation so much harder for you, especially when they dont know you or your boyfriend!!
2006-12-10 19:55:15 · answer #7 · answered by minimouse68 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the baby , the baby is a blessing from god . and be happy he wants u and him to get married. I have a 7 month old baby girl and me and her dad broke up when I was 3 months pregnant imagine how I feel becuz I wanted us to be together and now I won't let him see her. and I'm 19. good luck though.
2006-12-10 19:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by twiggy_vienna_love 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I don't recomend abortion. You need to tell your mom !! You both together can figure something out. if you can't raise a baby then there are so many loving couples out there that could provide a loving home for your baby. Good luck !
2006-12-10 19:51:25 · answer #9 · answered by Mindy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey, if he's willing to stay with you and marry you, keep the baby. i would never say get an abortion anyways, but it seems you are lucky, most girls your age who get pregnant do not have the support of their partners... good luck in which ever decision you make...
2006-12-10 19:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by Tiibii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋