My friend wants me to go to her house and drink and smoke but i never have done it b4 and im scared but all of my other friends are goin and i no if i dont go theyll talk about me and say im a wussy or somethin. i even asked my mom if shes ever tried it when she was a teen and she said yes. so i dont really no wat to do. Should i stay or should i go???
2006-12-10 11:26:27 · 25 answers · asked by naynay1852 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Do what you feel inside is right for you,let me give you some of my life experiences and see if it makes any difference.I started smoking pot in high school(1980-83) and then went to cocaine,lsd,methamphetamines and I thought everything was cool,but it wasnt,now I'm 41 and sober,I'll still drink on occasion but its not important,Living life on its own terms is what its all really about,the friends you have now I'm sure are important to you,but you know what..later on in life they wont mean a thing to you,peer pressure sucks I know,but in the course of really doing something with yourself in life,its better to grasp the reality of living your life and not what other people think is best for you.it can be a very slippery slope when it comes to drinking and other stuff,it creeps up on you as the years go by,like me I look back at all the times I partied and all the things I couldve been if I hadnt partied,make your choices and friends wisely,you dont really need the extra drama that will come with any bad choices you decide...hope this helps to give you some insight
2006-12-10 11:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by stygianwolfe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, honestly just because you say NO doesn't mean your someone bad and not doing it doesn't mean nothing you can go and act like you tried it before but didn't like it and the smoking say your allergic to it alot of people are don't let anyone try to push you to do something that your not ready to do and if they do call you names then think about it are they really your friends true friends wont talk about you behind your back so any way think about it because your health would be the only thing you would be hurting do what you feel right of doing no one can tell you what to really do but in my opinion I would go but not do anything that I'm having concerns about there's a reason why you are concerns about it so I hope I helped and good luck on what you decide to do oh
2006-12-10 19:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey i used to smoke and drink my brains out, then i got into some deep trouble, im lucky not to be in jail for the rest of my life, my advice, is you can go to the party but u dont need to smoke and drink to be cool, and i may sound like a parent lecturing, but I am 18, and been there, and ****** up bad because of it...And weed after smoking for a while, will make you stupid, drinking, makes you do stuff you never would do if your sober, like loose your virginity if your a girl.....have fun, be safe
2006-12-10 19:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by Brandon H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay at home and don't go. True friends will understand. How you can be sure that you are gonna be safe if you go there?
Drinking problem well it depends, but smoking seems to me the worst. If you never smoked, don't start. If they tell you it's just smoking joint, marijuana that doesn't make you dependent then how you can be sure if they don't do other drugs or mix. Marijuana is gateway drug, so there is risk that there may be something more.
2006-12-10 19:40:27 · answer #4 · answered by master343 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say u should stay i mean u say they are ur friends right well if they really are true friends they will understand why u dont want to go and they wont mak fun of u and if they do just forget them u know they r not true friends and then find urself true friends because if u start smoking and drinking that will be a bad habit and both of those habits are really bad o i say u stay
2006-12-10 19:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by ¢Î§¢Ø 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you think is the best.What is the right thing to do. If they call you wussy then they are not really your friends. Don't do somethin you will regret.
2006-12-10 19:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a strong individual and are well above that kind of stuff. Once you get involved with drinking and smoking, it's hard to get out of, and you can get addicted. You'll be the one laughing at the end when your friends end up as crackheads on the streetcorners, with no college degree to speak of.
2006-12-10 19:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by I run... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be and individual! You don't have to do what you don't really want to, and if they call you a wussy tell them atleat you won't be in rehab by the time you're 21. Just use your best judgement.
2006-12-10 19:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them no and if they say you are a wussy, tell them they are a wussy of life if they want to ruin it so quickly, cuz they are... you can go over there and bring your own juice or soda and tell them you prefer that, because you do. Dont let these people ruin your future.
2006-12-10 19:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by Jelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them your parents won't allow you to go to others homes unless they meet the parents and get to know them. That is what a good parent would do and the right answer to give. Your friends will just say and think your parents are strict.
2006-12-10 19:32:20 · answer #10 · answered by JAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋