alright well im pregnant, very happy about that. = ) anyway my husband was drinking last night at home and i went to bed. he then went online and checked my email. its not like he found anything i have nothing to hide. but it makes me a little upset to think that he was checking up on me. am i wrong to be mad about this? should i say some thing ?
2006-12-10 11:16:46 · 16 answers · asked by littleluvkitty 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes ,you should be upset, the most healthiest relationships are those that have the trust in each other to let each one have some personal things like journals,emails or even your own friends,i believe there should be some boundaries in each relationship
2006-12-10 11:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by beachbridal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he exhibit other "controlling" behaviors? Make you check in with him throughout the day? Accuse you of cheating? Go through you mail? That sort of thing??
If he did something stupid while he was drunk, the the issue is not that he read your e-mail, its that he's getting out-of-control drunk and you two have a Baby on the way.
If its a first time deal, I'd say have a calm conversation about privacy with him, and while you are talking, mention that drinking is not tolerated in the home with the baby, so it needs to stop NOW.
2006-12-10 19:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to let him know that email is private. You have nothing to hide, so he couldn't find anything to be upset about. He may realize that you are not cheating on him and let it go, or he may be obsessed with seeing who you email.
I would mention it to him, but not make a big deal out of it. If you make things into a big deal he will think you have something to hide.
2006-12-10 19:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have nothing to hide, then you have nothing to be upset about. If you feel he's checking up on you, ask him why. Have you given him reason to be suspicious about anything? It may all be perfectly innocent.
2006-12-10 19:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by rtanys 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you should be mad at him he dont have know right to be check up on you he would not wont you to be check up on him im sure he would be mad at you so yes you do have a right to be mad at him and tell him that you mad at him.
2006-12-10 19:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by zambreisha t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does this all the time, I would be upset, especially if you have never given him any reason not to trust you. If this is the first time this has happened, I would definitely talk to him about it.
2006-12-10 19:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by bookworm_382 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have nothing to hide so no you should not be mad. however, you are upset that he invaded your privacy and u should tell him that. What will he do next, listen to ur phone conversations...?
2006-12-10 19:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by latina44572002 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How did you know? There shouldn't be anything wrong with that at all, don't you share everything? Mine couldn't be bothered to remember my info, anyway, so he'd never get on....
2006-12-10 21:10:42 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should be mad. Change your password and then ask him why he did it. Even in a marriage, there should be an expectation of privacy.
2006-12-10 19:19:41 · answer #9 · answered by Deus Luminarium 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has the right Honey, he pays the bills. Unless you want him doing someone else when you get fat and unattractive stop whining and complaining all the time.
2006-12-10 19:21:06 · answer #10 · answered by JoyDivision 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋