I am 40 yrs old and do not know a single couple from my generation that has remained married for more than 5-7 years. I wonder if marriage is an outdated institution anymore, since after all most of the traditional gender roles are going by the wayside and one can have children outside of marriage. Please state if you know any couples younger than 45 who have not yet got divorce after 5-10 yrs of marriage and where separation is not imminent.
2006-12-10 10:31:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know lots of them and alot more that I have thru counseling and advice have been pulled back from the halls of hell and those couples are going 12-15 yrs strong now. It comes down to how bad do you want to make your marriage work and if you two are really in love with each other. Most divorces happen because the couples gave up way too soon and without any outside help. I even have alot of couples in their 20s and 30s with a little help are going on 5-10 plus yrs of marriage.True I cant save them all and dont try to either. Remember if you want something then youll take a risk, if you want something bad enough, then youll risk everything. Depends on what you want and how bad you want it
2006-12-10 10:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so glad my parents are still married (3 kids). They are actually 45 and 47 though. My husband's parents are 44 and 45 and still married (4 kids, 1 foster, 1 adopted). My sister and her husband are 27 and 24 (married 4 years). I'm 23, husband 22 (married 1 1/2 years now). Marriage takes a lot of work. Sadly enough, most give up on it...but strangely enough remarry soon after. People long to be with another in a committed relationship, yet whatever reasons tear them apart. I have 3 aunts who have divorced, (1 remarried, 1 technically separated, 1 remarried 2 more times and is divorced to all 3 of them! It is a sad world indeed. A good marriage takes work. My husband and I value trust, committment, friendship. We know we'll have to actively contribute to our marriage and one another, if it means having a satisfying, successful marriage. I am sorry to say that you are right in your statements for the most part.
2006-12-10 10:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually know more married people and family my age than divorced ones. I, 2 of my sisters, and 1 cousin (out of almost 90 posterity from my dad's parents) are divorced. The rest have happy? marriages and I am glad for that.
Most of my friends, my office manager at work is my age, between 35-40 and happily! married.
It seems like such a trend these days because it is so much more accepted by society, but it really is still the minority.
I wish I was a good statistic rather than a bad one. Not my choice, however.
I still believe in marriage and maybe someday I will find the right person who believes in me.
2006-12-10 10:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear
I am so sorry you are confused marriage was instituted by God it will never be outdated, lots of couples are getting married and staying together it takes work but it can be done. a firm belief in what is right and wrong and a real commitment to each other is what it takes. I have done over thirty marriages this year alone all ages and a couple or recommitment's for people celebrating There 9 Th and 30 Th and 50th anniversary.
God Bless
Pastor Masem
2006-12-10 12:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by rev.masem 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All my brothers are married and never divorced, my older brother has been married for over 25 years, my youngest brother has been married for over 10 years, my younger brother has only been married for 3 years, but he waited until he was 39 to get married. I'm 43 and was married for 22 years. While I was a pastor, I married quite a few couples, and the trend I noticed was that the younger couples divorced much more often then the older, more mature ones.
2006-12-10 11:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by Deus Luminarium 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
JP,
Like you said, our generation tends toward divorce. The only people I know who are married for longer than 5 years are my parents, aunts and uncles (-2), and 1 friend my age (38). However, she cheats on her husband constantly.
I'm in my 30s. I chose to wait for the right man to come along and he hasn't so far.
I would love to have what my parents have. At the same time, my friends who got married/divorced earlier have children and I don't.
I hate the idea that I will spend the rest of my life alone. Am I wrong for not compromising? I am not sure anymore.
2006-12-10 10:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 25 and my husband is 28. We have been married for 8 years and together for 10 years. We have 2 boys and were still very happy.
2006-12-10 10:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married for 13 years and I'm not thinking of divorce.
2006-12-10 10:46:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
off the top of my head
8 in my family still married 1 is married 45years and the youngest is 43 and is married 15years. If I stop and think of my friends there is at least another 6. But during my days we did not live with each other, and getting married was not just a piece of paper, it was a commitment you made to each other for better or worse. and there are still those people out there who believe in that.
2006-12-10 10:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by lennie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 34 years old. I am married and have been for 8 years, going on 9. We have a great marriage although, we have disagreements sometimes.
2006-12-10 10:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by Colleen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋