My husband's ex wife sends the kids in almost every weekend since she found a new boyfriend. I arrange my schedule to be working from home on the weekends, when the kids are not around. But now its almost impossible to work on weekend because the kids are small and they demand a great deal of attention from both of us. My husband says he is happy that the ex sends the kids in because he likes having them around. So he doesn't want to hear about asking her to stick to the schedule. Any advice would be appreciated. Anyone other there works from home while having small kids around?
2006-12-10 09:52:41 · 6 answers · asked by Ladybug NH 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe your husband can take the kids to mc donalds for awhile and spend time with them there and you can get some work done. Send husband and kids away for awhile.
2006-12-10 09:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by mommys_girl1234 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know you have to pick your what is best for everyone, and just not work on weekend at all, and only work during the week, but beware of becoming the babysitter for just your husband and the exwife. Make sure that your plans are being heard and respected, and that the weekends visit don't become the long weeks during breaks and etc.
Make sure that your aren't just the title babysitter for both of them,because they have busy lives themselves.
That what happens in a blended families with small childen involved.
Most of all be careful of not sounding like the wicked stepmother, as well, to both your husband and the exwife.
Communication is very important to you and your marriage.
The exwife assumes that the ex is taking care of the kids, since he is at his own home anyway, and does not care about your life or schedule of work.
Blended families are difficult at times!
2006-12-10 18:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a step mother for your husband children you should know that the divorce did not bring an end to the turmoil between him and his former spouse. As children grow, their interests and needs change, so problems arise over changes in custody and visitation. Even parents who work together experience at least one or two major post divorce crises involving children. You should help him and as a rule he and you should not ask children what their visitation schedule should be.
Do consider the children's needs and interests.
He should speak to former spouse directly, not through the children. When you reach an impasse, speak to a mediator, preferably one with plenty of experience in resolving and visitation issues. Your husband should take into account your wishes though. On the other hand you should his so maybe compromise can be reached. Good luck for all of you.
2006-12-10 18:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is what happens when you marry someone with children. They were his kids before you were his wife, so I would arrange your schedule to be working away from home on weekends. If he wants them around so much, he can take care of them by himself!
2006-12-10 17:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by CM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you about that one. It is great that as their father he gets to spend a lot of time with them. It really shouldn't matter what the reason is that they are being sent there. If they are young he is getting the opportunity to see his children grow and that is something you can never get back once it is gone.
2006-12-10 18:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tough deal
2006-12-10 18:02:02 · answer #6 · answered by kurleylovescheese 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋